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She Slapped Boyfriend
- By Miss Emily
- Published 03/15/2011
- Relationships - Women
I recently got into an argument with my boyfriend. Every time we get
into an argument, he leaves me for the night and goes to his parents.
This has been a huge issue for me as I'm relating it to abandonment and
distrust in him. We have talked about it, he's aware of how it makes me
feel but has continued to do it. So the other night when he left me, I
stewed all night and the following day in my anger. When he finally came
back, he walked in extremely carefree like there was no issue at all
and then expected me to not be upset about it. One thing led to another
and I ended up slapping him and telling him to get out. I have since
apologized for my behavior and regret doing it, and want him back.
Unfortunately, he has not responded to anything. Any advice on how I can
make it up to him but also
stand my ground on him always leaving me?
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------
Obviously, slapping him wasn't the best course of action. It solved nothing (other than the temporary joy of doing it), nor does his passive-aggressive way of dealing with the arguments you and he have. If you and he can't come to some conclusion on how you are going to constructively handle the disagreements that cause these types of reactions, it doesn't matter if he forgives you. Arguments happens for all sort of reasons, but without some open-communication, rather than knee-jerk responses, you and he would be better off not being together. If he does forgive you, I think it's high time you and he get to the bottom of why both of you don't get along. I am even willing to think that he is hyper-sensitive, immature, and perceives much of what you say as a threat before he runs back home. But as I have said, a million times in my column, sometimes love isn't enough. Respect for each other (and that also means in opinions, wants and desires) trust, and true friendship are the cornerstones of any quality relationship. If you don't have that, you build resentment, anger, and no chance of forming healthy bonds that move you forward in the relationship, instead of stagnating in murky water.
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------
Obviously, slapping him wasn't the best course of action. It solved nothing (other than the temporary joy of doing it), nor does his passive-aggressive way of dealing with the arguments you and he have. If you and he can't come to some conclusion on how you are going to constructively handle the disagreements that cause these types of reactions, it doesn't matter if he forgives you. Arguments happens for all sort of reasons, but without some open-communication, rather than knee-jerk responses, you and he would be better off not being together. If he does forgive you, I think it's high time you and he get to the bottom of why both of you don't get along. I am even willing to think that he is hyper-sensitive, immature, and perceives much of what you say as a threat before he runs back home. But as I have said, a million times in my column, sometimes love isn't enough. Respect for each other (and that also means in opinions, wants and desires) trust, and true friendship are the cornerstones of any quality relationship. If you don't have that, you build resentment, anger, and no chance of forming healthy bonds that move you forward in the relationship, instead of stagnating in murky water.
