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Sudden End To Affair
- By Miss Emily
- Published 03/14/2011
- Relationships - Women
: Dear Miss Emily,
I've had a wonderful relationship with the man I love for a whole year. It was full of love, passion and talking dreams about our future together. Recently, his wife found out about us. She forgave him and he returned to his family, feeling he has an obligation towards his wife. He says he still loves me and can't live without me. Will we ever have the chance to be together, again, and make our dreams come true? Thank you very much for reading my question. Hope to have you answer soon. I need to know. I love him so much.
-----------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------
Love affairs are great for the married people who indulge in them because it gives them a chance to fill in the voids and, essentially, have it all. They offer tons of passion -- that's nice for you, too and, sometimes, plans are talked about for the future. The stolen moments are like no other. The downside is what you're faced with now -- reality -- and not the dream-like state you and he were in when you met on those secret occasions. That's over in the foreseeable future. If he were capable of leaving his wife, I would think he'd do it now in order to make his dream of being with you come true. But his family, his kids, the whole unit is a powerful force and they will probably keep him committed for some time to come. I mean, think about it. He probably told you he's staying for the kids, right? But even if leaving her were to happen in the future, how much time are you willing to wait? His wife is now the magnanimous one. She's forgiven him, and he owes her. I think what may happen is that he will try to see you after he can earn the trust of his wife (if he ever can), her guard is down, and she's not watching him like a hawk. What you really want is what he has (a spouse and a family). That's why he's staying put, and you are likely to be the one who will end up losing out. I know, I don't offer much encouragement, but the chances of this working out for you, the way you want (and the way he says he wants) seems to be elusive at best. Saying he can't live without you is nice to hear, but only words filled with emotion and little else.
I've had a wonderful relationship with the man I love for a whole year. It was full of love, passion and talking dreams about our future together. Recently, his wife found out about us. She forgave him and he returned to his family, feeling he has an obligation towards his wife. He says he still loves me and can't live without me. Will we ever have the chance to be together, again, and make our dreams come true? Thank you very much for reading my question. Hope to have you answer soon. I need to know. I love him so much.
-----------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------
Love affairs are great for the married people who indulge in them because it gives them a chance to fill in the voids and, essentially, have it all. They offer tons of passion -- that's nice for you, too and, sometimes, plans are talked about for the future. The stolen moments are like no other. The downside is what you're faced with now -- reality -- and not the dream-like state you and he were in when you met on those secret occasions. That's over in the foreseeable future. If he were capable of leaving his wife, I would think he'd do it now in order to make his dream of being with you come true. But his family, his kids, the whole unit is a powerful force and they will probably keep him committed for some time to come. I mean, think about it. He probably told you he's staying for the kids, right? But even if leaving her were to happen in the future, how much time are you willing to wait? His wife is now the magnanimous one. She's forgiven him, and he owes her. I think what may happen is that he will try to see you after he can earn the trust of his wife (if he ever can), her guard is down, and she's not watching him like a hawk. What you really want is what he has (a spouse and a family). That's why he's staying put, and you are likely to be the one who will end up losing out. I know, I don't offer much encouragement, but the chances of this working out for you, the way you want (and the way he says he wants) seems to be elusive at best. Saying he can't live without you is nice to hear, but only words filled with emotion and little else.
