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Girl-To-Girl Stuff
- By Miss Emily
- Published 03/10/2008
- Relationships - Women
DEAR MISS EMILY;
SATURDAY NIGHT, I WAS OVER AT MY FRIEND’S APARTMENT. WE GOT REALLY DRUNK TOGETHER(CELEBRATING OUR END OF THE SCHOOL SEMESTER AND ALL). LATER IN OUR DRUNKEN STATE, WE STARTED TO KISS, A LITTLE. JUST A FEW KISSES -- PERIODICALLY. I WAS ALREADY INTERESTED IN HER IN THE FIRST PLACE. I ALSO WAS INFORMED BY ANOTHER ONE OF OUR FRIENDS, WHO WAS THERE, THAT "SHE" KNEW HOW I FELT. TODAY, SHE AND I TALKED, AGAIN, FOR THE FIRST TIME SINCE THAT HAPPENED. NOW THERE'S SLIGHT TENSION AND INCONSISTENCIES IN THE VIBES I AM GETTING FROM HER. EVERYONE IS ADVISING ME TO JUST ASK HER HOW SHE FEELS, BUT IT'S NOT THAT EASY. I DON'T WANT HER TO THINK THAT, NOW, ALL I WANT IS TO DATE HER, BECAUSE I AM HAPPY TO JUST BE HER FRIEND IF SHE DOESN'T FEEL THE SAME ABOUT ME. BUT I KNOW SHE WONT BELIEVE THAT. DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE FOR ME TO HELP ME GET TO THE BOTTOM OF HER FEELINGS?
----------------------------Miss Emily’s advice----------------------
Alcohol is a great way to free-up inhibitions, but when the high dissipates, some of us are left to reassess our behavior. And in this case, it could be your friend. I would scrunch up my face, and say this: “Do you want to comment on what happened the other night?” If she says, “I don’t think it was such a good idea,” tell her, “Oh, good, because the next day, I realized the same thing." I think she'll believe you if you sound sincere. If, however, she says she’d like to revisit that night in a more meaningful way, make sure she’s on the same page in terms of the “L” word. If she is not, any further dalliances will end up poorly – kinda like picking someone up for a date and, after they get in the car, ask you to let them off at the next corner. I firmly believe that if she’s not gay, but only wants to explore what she feels is a cool excursion into forbidden territory, you’ll end up getting hurt and wishing you had stayed "just friends."
SATURDAY NIGHT, I WAS OVER AT MY FRIEND’S APARTMENT. WE GOT REALLY DRUNK TOGETHER(CELEBRATING OUR END OF THE SCHOOL SEMESTER AND ALL). LATER IN OUR DRUNKEN STATE, WE STARTED TO KISS, A LITTLE. JUST A FEW KISSES -- PERIODICALLY. I WAS ALREADY INTERESTED IN HER IN THE FIRST PLACE. I ALSO WAS INFORMED BY ANOTHER ONE OF OUR FRIENDS, WHO WAS THERE, THAT "SHE" KNEW HOW I FELT. TODAY, SHE AND I TALKED, AGAIN, FOR THE FIRST TIME SINCE THAT HAPPENED. NOW THERE'S SLIGHT TENSION AND INCONSISTENCIES IN THE VIBES I AM GETTING FROM HER. EVERYONE IS ADVISING ME TO JUST ASK HER HOW SHE FEELS, BUT IT'S NOT THAT EASY. I DON'T WANT HER TO THINK THAT, NOW, ALL I WANT IS TO DATE HER, BECAUSE I AM HAPPY TO JUST BE HER FRIEND IF SHE DOESN'T FEEL THE SAME ABOUT ME. BUT I KNOW SHE WONT BELIEVE THAT. DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE FOR ME TO HELP ME GET TO THE BOTTOM OF HER FEELINGS?
----------------------------Miss Emily’s advice----------------------
Alcohol is a great way to free-up inhibitions, but when the high dissipates, some of us are left to reassess our behavior. And in this case, it could be your friend. I would scrunch up my face, and say this: “Do you want to comment on what happened the other night?” If she says, “I don’t think it was such a good idea,” tell her, “Oh, good, because the next day, I realized the same thing." I think she'll believe you if you sound sincere. If, however, she says she’d like to revisit that night in a more meaningful way, make sure she’s on the same page in terms of the “L” word. If she is not, any further dalliances will end up poorly – kinda like picking someone up for a date and, after they get in the car, ask you to let them off at the next corner. I firmly believe that if she’s not gay, but only wants to explore what she feels is a cool excursion into forbidden territory, you’ll end up getting hurt and wishing you had stayed "just friends."
