Dear Miss Emily:

I have been with my boyfriend for a year, now, and he is still married and neither him or his ex is trying to get the divorce. I'm scared that maybe he really does not want to divorce her. What should I do ?

-------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------

Some things never change, and this is a common story. He has no incentive to divorce his wife as long as you remain his obedient girlfriend. The only way you can change it, if it can be changed (and that may be "iffy") is to end it with him, and see what happens. But don't hold your breath. Often times, the guy just finds a new "someone" to fill the void. I suspect he gives you his reasons for no movement on this front, but only you can decide if they are valid.