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Married Man Cheats on Mistress
- By Miss Emily
- Published 03/11/2011
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
A man that I was having a 12yr affair with just recently ended it. He said he was getting a divorce from his wife. He said he had met someone who loved him for him. I have given this man my heart and soul for 12yrs. I am only 29, he is 36. He always said if he weren't married to her, it would be me. He said he couldn't leave her because of their son and his pension. Obviously, those were lies. I managed to do some research and get his soon-to-be ex-wife's email address. I also have his Lt's email (he is a police officer). I want to ruin his life the way he has now ruined mine. I think his wife would get more if she knew he had cheated (I know she doesn't know because he begged me not to say anything to anyone). He would get fired because I have proof that a lot of our rendezvous took place when he was working in full uniform. But the person who loved him for 12yrs says no...to let it go. The person I have become since he dropped this bomb on me, via text a week ago, says to hell with him and to hurt him the way he hurt me.
-------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------
Chickens often come home to roost, without a person going out and purposely trying to damage someone's life. He's a jerk, no question about it, but even if you could prove that he was seeing you while he was on the clock, I'm not sure the outcome would be what you wanted. And as far as his wife getting more, it depends on where you live. I live in California, and the courts don't care about infidelity. In terms of custody of a child, maybe. But if the child's older, and wants to see his dad, I doubt the courts will limit custody because of adultery. So, as much as you want to damage his life, he'll probably do it on his own without your help. This is a bitter pill, but you got involved with a married man, and this is often the outcome. I don't mean to be harsh, but there are no guarantees in life, and this is most definitely one of those times. If you go after him he'll, more than likely, retaliate, and you don't want to suffer any more than you have.
A man that I was having a 12yr affair with just recently ended it. He said he was getting a divorce from his wife. He said he had met someone who loved him for him. I have given this man my heart and soul for 12yrs. I am only 29, he is 36. He always said if he weren't married to her, it would be me. He said he couldn't leave her because of their son and his pension. Obviously, those were lies. I managed to do some research and get his soon-to-be ex-wife's email address. I also have his Lt's email (he is a police officer). I want to ruin his life the way he has now ruined mine. I think his wife would get more if she knew he had cheated (I know she doesn't know because he begged me not to say anything to anyone). He would get fired because I have proof that a lot of our rendezvous took place when he was working in full uniform. But the person who loved him for 12yrs says no...to let it go. The person I have become since he dropped this bomb on me, via text a week ago, says to hell with him and to hurt him the way he hurt me.
-------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------
Chickens often come home to roost, without a person going out and purposely trying to damage someone's life. He's a jerk, no question about it, but even if you could prove that he was seeing you while he was on the clock, I'm not sure the outcome would be what you wanted. And as far as his wife getting more, it depends on where you live. I live in California, and the courts don't care about infidelity. In terms of custody of a child, maybe. But if the child's older, and wants to see his dad, I doubt the courts will limit custody because of adultery. So, as much as you want to damage his life, he'll probably do it on his own without your help. This is a bitter pill, but you got involved with a married man, and this is often the outcome. I don't mean to be harsh, but there are no guarantees in life, and this is most definitely one of those times. If you go after him he'll, more than likely, retaliate, and you don't want to suffer any more than you have.
