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Boyfriend Hasn't Called In A Week!
- By Miss Emily
- Published 03/5/2011
- Relationships - Women
Dear Emily
My boyfriend and I have been dating 13 months. We had an up and down relationship. We argued last week, but we both apologized an continued having our weekend together. We only see each other weekends. We spoke over the phone, last Monday, and he never replied 2my sms, or phone calls the entire week. What's your take on this?
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------
Assuming he is alive, and well, I won't lie to you. It's not a good sign that he hasn't been answering your calls. But there is little you can do until he does. Do not hound him by relentlessly sending messages. It makes you appear desperate, and needy, and that is the last thing you want him to think. Those traits, for a majority of the population, are a complete turn-off. If he wants to break up with you, permanently (or is punishing you), this is a lousy way of doing it on his part, but begging for him to stay is demeaning, and it will only evoke disgust, or pity for you. Exhibit some self-respect in this matter. It's the only way to let him know you're not going to accept his neglect of you. There's a reason why you and he fight, but unless you two are willing to get to the bottom of it to find common ground, even if you were to get back with him, the problems will be the same.
My boyfriend and I have been dating 13 months. We had an up and down relationship. We argued last week, but we both apologized an continued having our weekend together. We only see each other weekends. We spoke over the phone, last Monday, and he never replied 2my sms, or phone calls the entire week. What's your take on this?
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------
Assuming he is alive, and well, I won't lie to you. It's not a good sign that he hasn't been answering your calls. But there is little you can do until he does. Do not hound him by relentlessly sending messages. It makes you appear desperate, and needy, and that is the last thing you want him to think. Those traits, for a majority of the population, are a complete turn-off. If he wants to break up with you, permanently (or is punishing you), this is a lousy way of doing it on his part, but begging for him to stay is demeaning, and it will only evoke disgust, or pity for you. Exhibit some self-respect in this matter. It's the only way to let him know you're not going to accept his neglect of you. There's a reason why you and he fight, but unless you two are willing to get to the bottom of it to find common ground, even if you were to get back with him, the problems will be the same.
