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Awkward Teen Moments
- By Miss Emily
- Published 02/5/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
This guy started talking to me last year. Then a little more last semester, and more now. At the beginning of this semester, he asked if he could join me and my friends at our table at lunch, and I agreed. He'd always sit next to me. Then my friend got switched into my lunch period and wanted to sit next to me. He moved her stuff. Every time she tried, he'd move her stuff, until she gave up. We banter a lot, and he's a little socially awkward sometimes. He also likes to play up his french horn skills at lunch and sometimes follows me in the hallways. Him: "Do you have a boyfriend?" Me: "...No..." A: "Do you want one?" Me: "...I dunno..." Him: "Cuz Ive got this friend and he wants a girlfriend." This went on for a little while longer. My friend, who was listening in, is absolutely convinced this "friend" is really him, who is obviously secretly in love with me. Maybe because of how he sounded/asked, I dunno. We had a little activity in English with masks, and he got to wear one. Whenever he wasn't speaking, he was staring at me (I think he thought i couldnt tell with the mask. I could). So is he just stalking me, or wants to ask me out for his friend, or likes me, or what?
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------------
It sounds a bit odd, but your friend may be right. I would have called his bluff and said, "Introduce me to your friend!" But, yes, a guy who hangs around you that much, shifts lunch trays etc., I would wager a bet he's interested in you. I say this ad nauseam in my column to teenage girls, but here it goes, again: Teenage boys are human, too, and sometimes they simply don't know how to handle having a relationship -- so they do these dopey things to get noticed without having to take the plunge of asking a girl out and risk her saying "I don't think so." They pretty much hope it drops in their laps. I don't know if you like him but, if you do, I would tell him you are interested and take it from there. If he backs off, or denies he's interested, I think the poor sod just isn't ready to go to the next level -- despite his actions that speak to the contrary. If you're not interested in him, I would tell him to chill.
This guy started talking to me last year. Then a little more last semester, and more now. At the beginning of this semester, he asked if he could join me and my friends at our table at lunch, and I agreed. He'd always sit next to me. Then my friend got switched into my lunch period and wanted to sit next to me. He moved her stuff. Every time she tried, he'd move her stuff, until she gave up. We banter a lot, and he's a little socially awkward sometimes. He also likes to play up his french horn skills at lunch and sometimes follows me in the hallways. Him: "Do you have a boyfriend?" Me: "...No..." A: "Do you want one?" Me: "...I dunno..." Him: "Cuz Ive got this friend and he wants a girlfriend." This went on for a little while longer. My friend, who was listening in, is absolutely convinced this "friend" is really him, who is obviously secretly in love with me. Maybe because of how he sounded/asked, I dunno. We had a little activity in English with masks, and he got to wear one. Whenever he wasn't speaking, he was staring at me (I think he thought i couldnt tell with the mask. I could). So is he just stalking me, or wants to ask me out for his friend, or likes me, or what?
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------------
It sounds a bit odd, but your friend may be right. I would have called his bluff and said, "Introduce me to your friend!" But, yes, a guy who hangs around you that much, shifts lunch trays etc., I would wager a bet he's interested in you. I say this ad nauseam in my column to teenage girls, but here it goes, again: Teenage boys are human, too, and sometimes they simply don't know how to handle having a relationship -- so they do these dopey things to get noticed without having to take the plunge of asking a girl out and risk her saying "I don't think so." They pretty much hope it drops in their laps. I don't know if you like him but, if you do, I would tell him you are interested and take it from there. If he backs off, or denies he's interested, I think the poor sod just isn't ready to go to the next level -- despite his actions that speak to the contrary. If you're not interested in him, I would tell him to chill.
