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Girl Power!
- By Miss Emily
- Published 02/1/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Hi, Emily:
I have a boy problem. I am currently 16 years old and a junior in high school. A couple of weeks ago, i met this boy who my guy friends just joked about setting me up with. When they joked about it, he and I would just laugh and go along with it. But last week me, he and our friend were all just in the car. Then our friend left me and him there for a while and we just joked around and talked. And ever since i've been having feelings for him. I want to kind of show that i like him but im too scared. Oh and this week on Facebook, we've been jokingly writing on each other's walls with hearts and stuff. But i can never tell if he's serious or not. And then my good guy friend told me that he isn't looking for a girlfriend, but he said he would definitely make-out with me. I don't want to get used. Can you please help me?
-----------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
If all he wants is make-out sessions, take a pass, and consider yourself lucky that you didn't develop greater feelings for him. This is sort of the "junior" version of a "friends with benefits" relationship where you get the benefits of a relationship without a commitment. Boys will get away with anything a girl allows, sexually. Don't allow it, or you alone are to blame. If this were a science project, I would feel differently. But your heart is involved in this, and you don't want to be thought of as "just a good time" when you want to be taken seriously. You have the power to get what you want, and if he's not available in the way you desire, move on -- and pat yourself on the back for having the Moxie to do it. I know that this is an age of experiment, but you want to be seen as a viable individual who has a lot to give -- and not just some tongue action to a horny teenage boy.
I have a boy problem. I am currently 16 years old and a junior in high school. A couple of weeks ago, i met this boy who my guy friends just joked about setting me up with. When they joked about it, he and I would just laugh and go along with it. But last week me, he and our friend were all just in the car. Then our friend left me and him there for a while and we just joked around and talked. And ever since i've been having feelings for him. I want to kind of show that i like him but im too scared. Oh and this week on Facebook, we've been jokingly writing on each other's walls with hearts and stuff. But i can never tell if he's serious or not. And then my good guy friend told me that he isn't looking for a girlfriend, but he said he would definitely make-out with me. I don't want to get used. Can you please help me?
-----------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
If all he wants is make-out sessions, take a pass, and consider yourself lucky that you didn't develop greater feelings for him. This is sort of the "junior" version of a "friends with benefits" relationship where you get the benefits of a relationship without a commitment. Boys will get away with anything a girl allows, sexually. Don't allow it, or you alone are to blame. If this were a science project, I would feel differently. But your heart is involved in this, and you don't want to be thought of as "just a good time" when you want to be taken seriously. You have the power to get what you want, and if he's not available in the way you desire, move on -- and pat yourself on the back for having the Moxie to do it. I know that this is an age of experiment, but you want to be seen as a viable individual who has a lot to give -- and not just some tongue action to a horny teenage boy.
