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He Made Other Plans
- By Miss Emily
- Published 02/1/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Hi Emily,
I found this lad who i used to go school with and, now, we are doing the same course at college -- except he is a level above. We spent months talking and getting really close and he would text me everyday and night to make sure i was okay. I thought it was all going perfect until this girl form his level came out of the blues and they got together. He had never mentioned her before -- but i knew that he wouldn't lead me on and, then, find another girl. I started to act differently toward him, as i was angry about him and this girl together -- but very upset at the same time. Now he doesn't reply back to my text or emails, and I think he deleted me off facebook. and got a new number. Everyone tells me to move on, but i can't! He was right for me, and loved me for the way i am. What should i do?
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
No matter how close you and he seemed to be, there was no communication about you and him getting together in any greater capacity than friendship. It wasn't all up to him to make his feelings known. I don't think he's stupid, and your anger toward him pushed him to cut you off. Whether he was able to pinpoint why you behaved the way you did (and he probably was), it only added to the communication gap. As well, having a girlfriend was an added inducement to letting the friendship go. If you want to find any peace with this, text him and tell him you had feelings for him, and that's why you behaved the way you did. Apparently, although you thought he was right for you, he doesn't feel that way. At least not now, and your friends telling you to move on would be a wise decision. He may, at some time, come back into your life -- but hope is not a plan and you need to live your life for today, and not the unknown.
I found this lad who i used to go school with and, now, we are doing the same course at college -- except he is a level above. We spent months talking and getting really close and he would text me everyday and night to make sure i was okay. I thought it was all going perfect until this girl form his level came out of the blues and they got together. He had never mentioned her before -- but i knew that he wouldn't lead me on and, then, find another girl. I started to act differently toward him, as i was angry about him and this girl together -- but very upset at the same time. Now he doesn't reply back to my text or emails, and I think he deleted me off facebook. and got a new number. Everyone tells me to move on, but i can't! He was right for me, and loved me for the way i am. What should i do?
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
No matter how close you and he seemed to be, there was no communication about you and him getting together in any greater capacity than friendship. It wasn't all up to him to make his feelings known. I don't think he's stupid, and your anger toward him pushed him to cut you off. Whether he was able to pinpoint why you behaved the way you did (and he probably was), it only added to the communication gap. As well, having a girlfriend was an added inducement to letting the friendship go. If you want to find any peace with this, text him and tell him you had feelings for him, and that's why you behaved the way you did. Apparently, although you thought he was right for you, he doesn't feel that way. At least not now, and your friends telling you to move on would be a wise decision. He may, at some time, come back into your life -- but hope is not a plan and you need to live your life for today, and not the unknown.
