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Husband Made Hasty Exit
- By Miss Emily
- Published 01/26/2011
- Relationships - Men
Dear Miss Emily:
I got married about 5 months ago.I moved to NC. to live with my wife. I couldn't find a job, and I wasn't honest with her about a couple of things. I shut down, and moved back to my home town. I was wrong for doing that. Now I want to go back to her, and fix our marriage .I gave her about a month so she could think, but I miss her so much. I called her, and text her but got no answer.Finally, she text me back and said she would call me, last night, but she didn't. I apologized to her, and told her I love her, and I was sorry. I just don't know what to think or do. I wonder why she didn't call me. I texted her and asked her if she needed more time, is she done, or do you want to fix our marriage, and she said she would call me, but never did.Why didn't she call, so I know what to do? I'm confused. I want my wife back.
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
I would suspect she's listening to people around her who are saying you are a flake -- and I think that advice would be based on the fact you lied to her, shut down, and ran back home. It doesn't speak well of you, although I understand that we are all human and, I for one, have made some poor choices in my life. Yes, even me. I think the ball's in her court, so to speak. I don't know why she didn't call you, but when she does, I hope she is forthright about how she wants to proceed so you aren't left twisting in the wind. If she feels the marriage was based on a lie, and you cut and run when the heat was on, she may think it's not worth the effort to try, again. This all happened in the course of five months, and I have a feeling you two didn't know each other all that well before you married. If I am right, and this doesn't work out the way you think you want, let this be a lesson learned -- a painful one, and that would be an understatement. I feel for you, I really do, but I think you'd be a lucky man if she took you back to try, again, after what came down. I don't know what it would take to change her mind. The history is there. You made your case, you're sorry, and now it's all up to her.
I got married about 5 months ago.I moved to NC. to live with my wife. I couldn't find a job, and I wasn't honest with her about a couple of things. I shut down, and moved back to my home town. I was wrong for doing that. Now I want to go back to her, and fix our marriage .I gave her about a month so she could think, but I miss her so much. I called her, and text her but got no answer.Finally, she text me back and said she would call me, last night, but she didn't. I apologized to her, and told her I love her, and I was sorry. I just don't know what to think or do. I wonder why she didn't call me. I texted her and asked her if she needed more time, is she done, or do you want to fix our marriage, and she said she would call me, but never did.Why didn't she call, so I know what to do? I'm confused. I want my wife back.
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
I would suspect she's listening to people around her who are saying you are a flake -- and I think that advice would be based on the fact you lied to her, shut down, and ran back home. It doesn't speak well of you, although I understand that we are all human and, I for one, have made some poor choices in my life. Yes, even me. I think the ball's in her court, so to speak. I don't know why she didn't call you, but when she does, I hope she is forthright about how she wants to proceed so you aren't left twisting in the wind. If she feels the marriage was based on a lie, and you cut and run when the heat was on, she may think it's not worth the effort to try, again. This all happened in the course of five months, and I have a feeling you two didn't know each other all that well before you married. If I am right, and this doesn't work out the way you think you want, let this be a lesson learned -- a painful one, and that would be an understatement. I feel for you, I really do, but I think you'd be a lucky man if she took you back to try, again, after what came down. I don't know what it would take to change her mind. The history is there. You made your case, you're sorry, and now it's all up to her.
