5 yrs ago, I was forced to physically separate from my then boyfriend, who had proposed to me and to whom I lost my virginity.  We tried to maintain a long distance relationship, however, I found out and he later admitted to sleeping with my then, best friend. After having my heart broken. I decided to tell him I had his child and, then, cut contact with him completely. He tried to apologize and make contact with me, but i ignored him.  Eventually. I forgot about him and moved on to my current husband and had my son. I was still occasionally emailing him, and talking to him on the phone until I was ended up in a coma about 6 months ago. confessed while I was still in the hospital that I loved him still (and we never officially broke up).  However, he told me that I hurt him so deeply and that the only way he would forgive me was if i sent sexts (which i did).  Now we don't speak, but i find myself stalking his Facebook. I don't know if I really loved him, or if I'm just infatuated with how good he was in bed -- or if i just feel so guilty about what I did, and I'm subconsciously wishing for a second chance. I want to forget him and truly move on. How can i do this?

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Are you telling me you really did have his son? You had me confused on that, because of the time-line. If he says the only way he can forgive you is to send him sexts, doesn't that tell you that maybe he's trying to humiliate you, or thinks so little of you that this would be his only request? If it is his son, doesn't he want to see him? This is a bizarre situation, and something that's so terribly troubling. There are a lot of lives at stake, here, and neither one of you seemed to care about collateral damage. What about your husband, your child, and do you feel no obligation to them? A second chance with him, I think, would end in disaster. You both deceived each other, there is no trust, and forgiveness is based on sexting? I'm sorry, but you'd be in for more disappointment if you continue to think that this relationship could go anywhere other than south; although it doesn't seem an option for you. I am sorry about your coma, as well you didn't mention the reason why you and he had to separate in the first place -- but this whole issue seems part absurd, part tragedy, and odd based on the fact that you think sexting him was your ace to forgiveness. Again, that tells me he isn't serious, but only wanted to make a fool of you. That alone, should be closure and the impetus to more on.