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Find Local College?
- By Miss Emily
- Published 01/24/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
My boyfriend and I have been together for three and a half years. We started dating when I just turned 14 and he was 16. The connection we felt was amazing and we know we want to be together forever. Over the years we've had our fights, but we've always came through. However, its getting to that time where I graduate high school and go to college. All my friends are going away and it seems like so much fun, but I really don't want to lose my boyfriend. What should I do?
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------
I'm tempted to suggest you go away to college, because it's a great experience, can broaden your world in positives ways, and the independence is a good thing. But the way you talk about your boyfriend, it seems as if that would be a horribly painful choice. Keep in mind that if your boyfriend's not in college, the college experience may change you, intellectually, and will add to your maturity level -- no matter where you are. And that's okay if he isn't threatened by it, but you may end up growing out of him. If there's a local college that suits your needs, consider staying home. But if you want a college that offers you a great education in the career you want, but it's not available, locally, I would strongly consider taking advantage of it -- and plan to see your boyfriend on breaks and holidays. Not the best choice, I know, but you have to look at the whole picture.
My boyfriend and I have been together for three and a half years. We started dating when I just turned 14 and he was 16. The connection we felt was amazing and we know we want to be together forever. Over the years we've had our fights, but we've always came through. However, its getting to that time where I graduate high school and go to college. All my friends are going away and it seems like so much fun, but I really don't want to lose my boyfriend. What should I do?
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------
I'm tempted to suggest you go away to college, because it's a great experience, can broaden your world in positives ways, and the independence is a good thing. But the way you talk about your boyfriend, it seems as if that would be a horribly painful choice. Keep in mind that if your boyfriend's not in college, the college experience may change you, intellectually, and will add to your maturity level -- no matter where you are. And that's okay if he isn't threatened by it, but you may end up growing out of him. If there's a local college that suits your needs, consider staying home. But if you want a college that offers you a great education in the career you want, but it's not available, locally, I would strongly consider taking advantage of it -- and plan to see your boyfriend on breaks and holidays. Not the best choice, I know, but you have to look at the whole picture.
