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The Guy's A Control Freak
- By Miss Emily
- Published 01/24/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
So my friend is 15 and a 24 year old is waiting for her to turn 16, because its a consent age. He's been waiting like 6 months for this to happen. I think he really likes her and is willing to date her. My friend doesn't mind, but he also said to her that he will pay for her tuition once she gets in university, and after shes finishes uni, he will talk to her dad an they can get married and have kids. He's serious about her and is willing to do anything -- but the age is like 8-9 years apart, and she's not sure what to do. She does like him. but I don't think she would want to get married after she finishes uni -- rather than get a career like at age 23 or 24? What do you think she should do, and is the guy to good to be true?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------------
What she needs to do is set this guy straight, and now. I'm not that crazy about the age difference, either, but the fact that he wants this kind of control is troubling. He is assuming way too much, despite the outward appearance of generosity. Because of her youth, I think she feels she doesn't have the power to be bold and tell him that he's moving way too fast and, at this point, she has no desire to accept his offer. It's way too early in the game to even suggest such an arrangement of future marriage and kids This is her life, and it should not, and cannot be in the control of an over-zealous guy who doesn't see this as an outrageous over-reach on his part. Right now, he should butt out of her life when it comes to her plans for her future. Please make her see that, and encourage her to find the guts to lay it on the line to him.
So my friend is 15 and a 24 year old is waiting for her to turn 16, because its a consent age. He's been waiting like 6 months for this to happen. I think he really likes her and is willing to date her. My friend doesn't mind, but he also said to her that he will pay for her tuition once she gets in university, and after shes finishes uni, he will talk to her dad an they can get married and have kids. He's serious about her and is willing to do anything -- but the age is like 8-9 years apart, and she's not sure what to do. She does like him. but I don't think she would want to get married after she finishes uni -- rather than get a career like at age 23 or 24? What do you think she should do, and is the guy to good to be true?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------------
What she needs to do is set this guy straight, and now. I'm not that crazy about the age difference, either, but the fact that he wants this kind of control is troubling. He is assuming way too much, despite the outward appearance of generosity. Because of her youth, I think she feels she doesn't have the power to be bold and tell him that he's moving way too fast and, at this point, she has no desire to accept his offer. It's way too early in the game to even suggest such an arrangement of future marriage and kids This is her life, and it should not, and cannot be in the control of an over-zealous guy who doesn't see this as an outrageous over-reach on his part. Right now, he should butt out of her life when it comes to her plans for her future. Please make her see that, and encourage her to find the guts to lay it on the line to him.
