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Hot To Cold Relationship
- By Miss Emily
- Published 01/23/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Emily:
Okay, I'm 19, and my girlfriend is 19 too. I met her through my best friend, and we just started talking as friends. We got along pretty good, and we occasionally flirted with each other at times. Well, after 2 months, I made a move on her, and she gave me a chance to be with her.( This is online dating). Well, when we first started out, we were doing awesome, talking for hours on the laptop, and having a great time. Well, surprisingly, like 2-3 days later, she changes the way she talks to me. Like, she just answers my questions, and no smiley faces, no cute names or nothing. It's like shes changed dramatically. I asked her what was wrong, but she said she was doing fine. Just today she updated her status saying that she was unhappy. And well, I'm waiting for a reply at the moment. You see, it's been so little time, and it feels like she's losing interest -- despite how I always tell her that I'm a lucky guy and how important she is to me. I treat her very sweet, but it seems like it doesn't matter anymore. I don't know what to do, and I want to make her happy, and have her still be mine. Please help Emily! I would greatly appreciate it!
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------------
The problem is, you can't really know what's happened because she isn't being honest with you. But something definitely has happened. Maybe someone else has come into her life, maybe she has family problems, she's bi-polar, and maybe she's . . . you get the idea. The fact that she updated her status to "unhappy" means something is not right with her. The only thing you can do is this: write to her and say,"I am worried about you. I read that you were unhappy. If there's anything I can do, or say, please let me know. And if for some reason it's me, you're no longer interested, I need you to be honest about it. I won't go ballistic, I won't beg you to stay with me, I just want to know so I can go on with my life." And that's really all you can do. If she doesn't respond with anything other that "nothing's wrong," and she still continues to be distant, I think you know all you need to know -- and that would be she's not interested -- for whatever reason, and you, no matter how painful, must face it and move on.
Okay, I'm 19, and my girlfriend is 19 too. I met her through my best friend, and we just started talking as friends. We got along pretty good, and we occasionally flirted with each other at times. Well, after 2 months, I made a move on her, and she gave me a chance to be with her.( This is online dating). Well, when we first started out, we were doing awesome, talking for hours on the laptop, and having a great time. Well, surprisingly, like 2-3 days later, she changes the way she talks to me. Like, she just answers my questions, and no smiley faces, no cute names or nothing. It's like shes changed dramatically. I asked her what was wrong, but she said she was doing fine. Just today she updated her status saying that she was unhappy. And well, I'm waiting for a reply at the moment. You see, it's been so little time, and it feels like she's losing interest -- despite how I always tell her that I'm a lucky guy and how important she is to me. I treat her very sweet, but it seems like it doesn't matter anymore. I don't know what to do, and I want to make her happy, and have her still be mine. Please help Emily! I would greatly appreciate it!
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------------
The problem is, you can't really know what's happened because she isn't being honest with you. But something definitely has happened. Maybe someone else has come into her life, maybe she has family problems, she's bi-polar, and maybe she's . . . you get the idea. The fact that she updated her status to "unhappy" means something is not right with her. The only thing you can do is this: write to her and say,"I am worried about you. I read that you were unhappy. If there's anything I can do, or say, please let me know. And if for some reason it's me, you're no longer interested, I need you to be honest about it. I won't go ballistic, I won't beg you to stay with me, I just want to know so I can go on with my life." And that's really all you can do. If she doesn't respond with anything other that "nothing's wrong," and she still continues to be distant, I think you know all you need to know -- and that would be she's not interested -- for whatever reason, and you, no matter how painful, must face it and move on.
