Dear Miss Emily:

I have been married for 6 years to a wonderful man, but recently lost him after I started emailing someone else.  Other than being forced to spend a great deal of time apart, what would make me do something so stupid, knowing I would lose the man I love?

--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------------

Be willing to admit you're human, and please don't continue to drag yourself through the emotional mud. Some people aren't capable of spending a great deal of time apart in a marriage, and the loneliness is what prompts a person to seek outside attention. I'm not excusing your behavior, but I understand the motivation if those were the reasons. I don't think you thought you'd lose your husband. I am sure that never crossed your mind. You did it for attention, it made you happy, it filled a void and, more than likely, you thought you could keep it a secret. You didn't tell me how your husband found out. I can only suspect he read your Internet e-mails. I don't know if your husband has filed for divorce, but I think he'd be foolish not to go to marriage counseling to see if this marriage can be repaired. That said, be sure that you want to repair the marriage if it is at all possible. The core reason for doing what you did must be clear to you, and any thoughts that he is not the man you should have married, must be addressed -- no matter how wonderful he is.