I have two friends and I love them both to death. They used to be best friends until a boy came into the picture and broke up their friendship. While dating one of them, he started flirting with the other. Now he's still dating one and cheating on her with the other. His girlfriend doesn't know. Somehow, I got sucked into this. Now I know he's secretly cheating on his girlfriend. The friend that's secretly seeing this boy entrusted me with all her secrets about their meetings. The boy even started telling me about them, and asking me for help. Now I feel guilty and like a bad friend to my other friend, because I know everything and I'm not telling her. I can't break my promise and tell my friend that her boyfriend is cheating on her, but I can't stand the guilt I feel! Please, tell me what to do!

--------------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice ----------------------------------------

I think you have a chance of losing a friend, and it's tough. I have heard different opinions on this, and they are: Tell her; keep out of it; or "you tell her, or I will." The "you tell her or I will" is just about equal to going to the betrayed, directly. I would do this: Tell them this is eating at you, and it's their fault because they entrusted you when you didn't want to know their deception. You would want to know if someone were cheating on you. But you're agreeable to this: "Either end it with each other, or "Jim" break it off with your girlfriend. If you continue on like this with my knowledge, I'll say something." This way, although your friend will be angry you gave them an ultimatum, it puts the ball back in their court. "Jim" either does the right thing by breaking it off with his girlfriend, or they sneak behind your back and leave you out of it. I think the friend who is being deceived will eventually learn that this guy is a jerk. She already can't stand the friend who you continue to see.