My ex started seeing a girl about 4 months ago and she is a known heroin addict. She has lost custody of all 3 of her kids. My ex and I have 1 child together. He used to be a great father to her. Now he rarely sees, or calls our daughter. Rumor has it he is on heroin as well. We have only seen him on Thanksgiving and Christmas and he looked like total crap. I moved from Arizona about 7 months ago and now live back in Ohio where he also lives. Our custody papers state that he can get our daughter that last day of school when summer vacation starts. I don't know if he will try to come get her, or keep ignoring her as he is now. My question is do you think I should hire a lawyer and have his visit changed? I really don't think I want my daughter around the drugs.

---------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------------------------


Of course you don't want your daughter around drugs!. And, yes, hire a lawyer. The courts should care that his girlfriend is a heroin addict, she will be in your daughter's company,  and that your ex is possibly doing drugs, as well. There should be no equivocating, here. Your daughter's welfare is first, and foremost your main concern. He may not take his visitation privileges when school lets out, but you can't take that risk. Drug addicts always seem to think they are contenders -- they have oodles of false pride -- no matter that they are troubled human beings who cannot be trusted to do the right thing. But you can, and your daughter's welfare depends on it. Good luck to you.