Hey Emily,

I'm in bit of a bad situation, but if you can't help its fine. Well, I'm 16 and my ex is 18. We broke up, well I broke up with him because he cheated, and some other stuff -- and it got bad like the police had to get involved. Well, now he is like going crazy, and trying to blackmail me into dating him again, and I just dunno what to do. I am so scared/sad all the time because of him. He is ruining my life. Please just give me some advise...sorry for bothering you though...

------------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------------------


You're not bothering me!  From my experience, people who make threats rarely follow through because they are afraid of retaliation. It's often a tactic to get what he (or she) wants, because it makes the threatened person fearful. However, if he threatening you with bodily harm, you need to talk to someone of authority -- a parent of school counselor. But remember this: He has absolutely no right to do this to you. What's the worst that can happen if his threats are only divulging information he has about you? Even if he were to tell someone you did something that you, now, regret, who's going to believe him? He's a cheater, been in trouble with the police, and anything he said would be taken, not as fact but, more than likely, a lie to get back at you because he's angry. Get back to me if you need more help, and please put your correct e-mail.