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In Love With Husband's Dad
- By Miss Emily
- Published 01/10/2011
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
Hello.I am in need of advice bad. First background info: My husband of 9 years met his dad when he was 20 for the first time. They have always had a very rocky relationship. Anyway, I have two children with my husband. There has been abuse between the two of us, and he has a drug problem. We have split up twice and, during the split up, I have been having an affair with his dad. I'm 30, his dad being 46. We are in love. Never ever in my life have I been as happy as I am with his dad. I don't know what to do. This has been going on for 3 years, and I'm ready to start a new life with his dad. The marriage has been over for before his dad came around. ( they stopped talking when he was 25 till he was 28.). My friends think I'm a sick, evil person for this. I can't help who I love! What do i do?
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------
It's one of the worst sticky-wickets I've heard -- and I've been doing this for four years, and almost 6000 letters of advice! I'm gritting my teeth just writing this to you. What an awful place to be. If you get with this man, he'll be your kids' grandfather, and their new step-father. If you have a child with the dad, your ex will now have a new half-sister, or brother, and you'll be his new step-mother. And your kids, with the ex, if you were to have kids with the dad, would have a half-sibling, as well as a new aunt, or uncle. Do you really want that in your life? My god, girl! You'll be going from abuse, and your husband's drug addiction, to a Hollywood movie plot. But if you're determined to be with the dad (and it could easily go bust if you and he actually settled down and lived your lives together, in reality, and not the safe harbor of the stolen moments you and he once had), you'd better divorce your husband, right now, and cross your fingers and toes. I would tell you to keep this a secret, wait a good while for the divorce to settle in -- and then make this public knowledge -- but with your friends thinking you're evil, this may come out before a waiting period, and your ex will surely go ballistic. The kids are going to have it the worst. It would be best to move out of state if you could. To be hanging around in the same city is a volatile mix that could explode, and you don't want your children to suffer for your lack of good judgment. This is an awful mess, I'm going to be honest with you, and I doubt it will turn out well. Your ex has a rocky relationship with his dad, and can you even imagine what he could do when he finds out about this? Again, any hope that this will all fall into place is a pipe dream. I wish you well, 'cause you're going to need it, my dear. Ouch!
Hello.I am in need of advice bad. First background info: My husband of 9 years met his dad when he was 20 for the first time. They have always had a very rocky relationship. Anyway, I have two children with my husband. There has been abuse between the two of us, and he has a drug problem. We have split up twice and, during the split up, I have been having an affair with his dad. I'm 30, his dad being 46. We are in love. Never ever in my life have I been as happy as I am with his dad. I don't know what to do. This has been going on for 3 years, and I'm ready to start a new life with his dad. The marriage has been over for before his dad came around. ( they stopped talking when he was 25 till he was 28.). My friends think I'm a sick, evil person for this. I can't help who I love! What do i do?
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------
It's one of the worst sticky-wickets I've heard -- and I've been doing this for four years, and almost 6000 letters of advice! I'm gritting my teeth just writing this to you. What an awful place to be. If you get with this man, he'll be your kids' grandfather, and their new step-father. If you have a child with the dad, your ex will now have a new half-sister, or brother, and you'll be his new step-mother. And your kids, with the ex, if you were to have kids with the dad, would have a half-sibling, as well as a new aunt, or uncle. Do you really want that in your life? My god, girl! You'll be going from abuse, and your husband's drug addiction, to a Hollywood movie plot. But if you're determined to be with the dad (and it could easily go bust if you and he actually settled down and lived your lives together, in reality, and not the safe harbor of the stolen moments you and he once had), you'd better divorce your husband, right now, and cross your fingers and toes. I would tell you to keep this a secret, wait a good while for the divorce to settle in -- and then make this public knowledge -- but with your friends thinking you're evil, this may come out before a waiting period, and your ex will surely go ballistic. The kids are going to have it the worst. It would be best to move out of state if you could. To be hanging around in the same city is a volatile mix that could explode, and you don't want your children to suffer for your lack of good judgment. This is an awful mess, I'm going to be honest with you, and I doubt it will turn out well. Your ex has a rocky relationship with his dad, and can you even imagine what he could do when he finds out about this? Again, any hope that this will all fall into place is a pipe dream. I wish you well, 'cause you're going to need it, my dear. Ouch!
