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Teen Girl And Angry Boyfriend
- By Miss Emily
- Published 01/8/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
I've been in a relationship with a boy who is a year younger than me. He's a freshman and I'm a sophomore in high school and you see I really do love him, and apparently he loves me too, but things are getting really awkward, It's after Christmas break, and hes been really mean to me, and he keeps telling me he's just playing around, but it doesn't seem like it at all. Not only did we already have sex but, hes just getting really mad at me because, apparently, I make him really angry or something. I called him a slow reader, and I was kidding around. He's also mad that I don't know when our anniversaries are. Some pals of mine are asking me why I'm with him, if we have nothing in common whatsoever. I've hurt myself to the thought of not being with him, and not having any type of relationship with him. so should i break up with him, or stay together with him?
---------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
I always say this first, so bear with me. Make sure you always use protection! Phew, now I can go proceed. He has no excuse for being mean to you. If you and he don't agree on things, you either work it out, or you should call it quits. Sometimes love just isn't enough. You've had sex with him, and that's a connection, but it doesn't amount to much if nothing else binds you together -- like compatible interests, and respect. The joking thing gets old, real fast. There's that maxim, "Many a truth was spoken in jest." If he has issues with you, and vice-versa, there's either a legitimate reason, or there isn't, but anger is how he seems to handle his frustration without coming to terms with why he feels that way -- and how to work it out. A good relationship is based on respect, understanding, trust, and kindness to one another. If you don't have these elements, it's going to be a pretty empty relationship when all is said and done. From what you have said, you'd better work out your difference, find some common ground, or let each other go. I know you're young, and these early relationships are often trial and error -- but life is really too short when you don't go after the things that make you happy. And right now, your frustration with this is leading you in the opposite directions.
I've been in a relationship with a boy who is a year younger than me. He's a freshman and I'm a sophomore in high school and you see I really do love him, and apparently he loves me too, but things are getting really awkward, It's after Christmas break, and hes been really mean to me, and he keeps telling me he's just playing around, but it doesn't seem like it at all. Not only did we already have sex but, hes just getting really mad at me because, apparently, I make him really angry or something. I called him a slow reader, and I was kidding around. He's also mad that I don't know when our anniversaries are. Some pals of mine are asking me why I'm with him, if we have nothing in common whatsoever. I've hurt myself to the thought of not being with him, and not having any type of relationship with him. so should i break up with him, or stay together with him?
---------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
I always say this first, so bear with me. Make sure you always use protection! Phew, now I can go proceed. He has no excuse for being mean to you. If you and he don't agree on things, you either work it out, or you should call it quits. Sometimes love just isn't enough. You've had sex with him, and that's a connection, but it doesn't amount to much if nothing else binds you together -- like compatible interests, and respect. The joking thing gets old, real fast. There's that maxim, "Many a truth was spoken in jest." If he has issues with you, and vice-versa, there's either a legitimate reason, or there isn't, but anger is how he seems to handle his frustration without coming to terms with why he feels that way -- and how to work it out. A good relationship is based on respect, understanding, trust, and kindness to one another. If you don't have these elements, it's going to be a pretty empty relationship when all is said and done. From what you have said, you'd better work out your difference, find some common ground, or let each other go. I know you're young, and these early relationships are often trial and error -- but life is really too short when you don't go after the things that make you happy. And right now, your frustration with this is leading you in the opposite directions.
