So I met this girl about a month ago, and we started talking and she told me that she was in love with this guy but he had a girlfriend. He told this girl that he was going to leave his girlfriend for her but this went on for two months and she ask me for advice. I told her that he was just jerking her around, and she deserved better. Well after talking for a while, we had a connection and she said she wanted to date me so I agreed. We went on a couple of dates and they went very well we connected very well. Well, last night we went out everything went great. So I dropped her off and we kissed. Later on that night, I told her that I liked her a lot and she said she liked me a lot too but she still liked this other guy. She ask me if I would wait for her to get over him, and I said yes I would. Well, then, today I didn't talk to her at all -- but when I finally did, her answers were very short and she said nothing was wrong. Then I asked her were we stood and she said "just friends," and I asked her if she meant what she said that she liked me a lot, and she said yeah but she loved the guy that was suppose to leave his girlfriend. So how could this all change over night and what should I do?  Please help.

----------------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------------------

I don't think anything really changed. Her emotional attachment is to this other guy. She's being a tad delusional if she's waiting for him to leave his girlfriend, and it's been over two months. This is one patient little gal!  But she told you how she felt when you first met her, despite her asking you out. Red flags were waving on that one, but I understand that you thought she was earnest, and it was worth a try. It's hard to be honest about these matters. She does like you (what's not to like?), but she's obviously talking to, and still hopeful that this other guy will come through for her. She loves him. Poor girl. Better for you to know, now, than spend anymore time with her. You don't want to be a band-aid for a girl with a bleeding heart. I usually advise people when they have the heads-up on a person still hung-up on someone else, or not completely over a break-up, to keep their distance. The investment of time, energy, and emotions are usually too costly when you try to win a battle with no weapon. Please don't take it personally. I get lots of letters like this one. Some people seem to think that hope is answer, when all it usually turns out to be is a crap shoot. That's pretty common, but unrealistic.