I am not in a relationship right now, but I have known one of my very good guy friends for about 5 months. We were both physically attracted to each other from the beginning, but we have kept our friendship extremely platonic so the good friendship we have developed would not be ruined. We talk every day and hang out a few times a week, sometimes even until 5 in the morning. Just recently we have been extremely touchy and flirty. We finally kissed last night. We talked about kissing before we kissed, and he admitted that he never wanted to make a move because he isn't looking for a relationship. He also said that another reason why he never made a move is because he thinks he might fall for me. Today we talked like nothing happened last night. He continued talking about what girls he thinks are attractive. I just feel like I am receiving so many mixed signals from him and I do not know how to react to it. I really like him physically and mentally bu I don't want to get hurt. Should I bring up the other night or leave it alone? I've always wanted to kiss him, but now that we finally did...what now? I'm not sure if I want a relationship with him just because I know he talks to so many girls and LOVES the single life. He tells me about these girls...since we were very good friends who went to each other for opposite sex problems. We are also very different people from different areas, and he is very different from the past guys I've dated. He doesn't come from the best area and sometimes I feel like I intimidate him with my success. What to do from here?

-----------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------------------

I think you should bring it up to him -- unless you want to wait for this to happen, again -- and it probably will. Risking a heart break is part of getting involved with someone -- although I understand that you don't trust he could get serious because of his eye for the ladies, and his penchant for the single life. But you have a good, close friendship with him and it shouldn't be off limits to talk about what happened. Don't get into a situation, now, where things get left unsaid in order to avoid discussing your feelings. It puts a strain on the friendship. Second-guessing is never a good idea if you can find out what's going on through open-communication. I do understand your trepidation about being from different backgrounds, and your success being a threat  -- and, of course, these are things that could interfere with a enduring relationship. But there's nothing written that you have to marry this man.