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Boyfriend's Moving Away
- By Miss Emily
- Published 12/31/2010
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily,
My
boyfriend of almost two years just graduated from college and is going
to be moving away to pursue his career. Because of financial reasons, I
have not been able to complete my schooling. There has been no talk of
me coming along with him when he moves, and that would leave me the
option of moving back in with my parents. I think he's going to end our
relationship because of the move, what should I do?
-------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------------------
Because you're an equal part in this relationship (at least I hope you believe that), you need to have a frank discussion with him concerning your relationship and where it's headed. Promise you won't go ballistic, but you need to know. Being in this limbo state puts you at a horrible disadvantage. If he tells you he doesn't know where you and he will be after he moves, at least you know he has no definitive plan for your future with him -- and that will tell you a lot. It means you'll have to concentrate on continuing school, move in with you parents, and face the future with a solid plan of your own. This problem comes up, often, and there's no quick fix. You need to avoid looking needy, and exhibit some ability to move forward without imploding. If you were to become needy, and pathetic, that would make him think the move was not only good for a start of his career, but a definite way to get out of the relationship. Don't give him the any fuel to entertain those thought were that not to be the case.
-------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------------------
Because you're an equal part in this relationship (at least I hope you believe that), you need to have a frank discussion with him concerning your relationship and where it's headed. Promise you won't go ballistic, but you need to know. Being in this limbo state puts you at a horrible disadvantage. If he tells you he doesn't know where you and he will be after he moves, at least you know he has no definitive plan for your future with him -- and that will tell you a lot. It means you'll have to concentrate on continuing school, move in with you parents, and face the future with a solid plan of your own. This problem comes up, often, and there's no quick fix. You need to avoid looking needy, and exhibit some ability to move forward without imploding. If you were to become needy, and pathetic, that would make him think the move was not only good for a start of his career, but a definite way to get out of the relationship. Don't give him the any fuel to entertain those thought were that not to be the case.

