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Senior Boy Wants Alone Time
- By Miss Emily
- Published 12/30/2010
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Emily,
For the past few months this senior boy and I have been talking a little and saying how we should hang out. I'm a sophomore girl, and just the other night he text me asking to hang out. We haven't actually ever hung out, yet, because our schedules on weekends haven't worked out because one of us was always busy. I was with a friend and we invited him to come hang out with us. But instead, he kept suggesting that just me and him should hang out alone. He hasn't exactly had the best reputation when it came to girls, but also that was a few years ago. I don't know if he's changed this year or not. I couldn't because my friend and I were having a sleepover, but I was wondering, do you think that he has good intentions and genuinely wanted to hang out and get to know me, or just wants to hook up? I don't want to assume the worst of him, but I honestly have no idea whether or not he has good intentions. Whenever we've talked he's been nothing but nice to me, but do you think that was just an act he was putting on to get me to hook up with him? I'm just confused and I would love to hear what your opinion is on this situation.
---------------Miss Emily's advice-------------
For the past few months this senior boy and I have been talking a little and saying how we should hang out. I'm a sophomore girl, and just the other night he text me asking to hang out. We haven't actually ever hung out, yet, because our schedules on weekends haven't worked out because one of us was always busy. I was with a friend and we invited him to come hang out with us. But instead, he kept suggesting that just me and him should hang out alone. He hasn't exactly had the best reputation when it came to girls, but also that was a few years ago. I don't know if he's changed this year or not. I couldn't because my friend and I were having a sleepover, but I was wondering, do you think that he has good intentions and genuinely wanted to hang out and get to know me, or just wants to hook up? I don't want to assume the worst of him, but I honestly have no idea whether or not he has good intentions. Whenever we've talked he's been nothing but nice to me, but do you think that was just an act he was putting on to get me to hook up with him? I'm just confused and I would love to hear what your opinion is on this situation.
---------------Miss Emily's advice-------------
I have a tendency to feel the concern that you do. If he wasn't willing to come along with you and a friend, I wonder about his true intentions. I get a lot of letters from girls who end up in the very same circumstance. The guy is nice, they go to his place, and he's looking for a hook-up. You have power, and you can wield it. And that means saying "no" when something isn't right, and never letting a guy, or anyone get the best of you. You have choices, you are responsible for your behavior -- and that means taking care of yourself and never settling for less that what we want, or deserve. I think you made the right choice.
