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Wants Her And His Girlfriend
- By Miss Emily
- Published 12/30/2010
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
I have this best friend, who's a guy. We don't have the normal best friend realtionship though, we have the obvious flirty kind. And over the past few months I've really started to like him. Like a lot. Since he's my bestfriend, I decided to tell him. I was expecting him to say something like "We're just friends, you know that" or whatever. But, instead, he said something very similar to what I said to him. He likes me. I was freaking out inside until he said "But, my girlfriend..." I came back to reality so fast, I completely forgot about her. Ever since that conversation, we've been a little more flirty than usual. I'm getting mixed signals. One minute he's like "I love my girl, so I'm faithful to her, but you will always be my best friend." and then the next minute he's like "Baby, I want you, I wanna be with you." It's like his girlfriend dosen't even exist. I don't know what to do! Should I just accept the fact that we're always gonna be "just friends" and get over him, or should I keep things the way they are and just wait and see if we ever become more than friends? Help!
----------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------------
I would draw the line on "baby I want you." That's going to get old fast if this relationship doesn't progress to one of romance in a timely fashion. It's not only for your own good, but he needs to make up his mind, one way or the other, because it's not fair to you. You're the single one, he's not, and he should feel obligated to you (and his girlfriend) to be a stand-up guy. As well, you should honor the fact that he does have a girlfriend, and she simply does not deserve to be left in the dark to be played for a fool. Use some self-restraint, and don't cross the line. I think that would be the quickest way to get this settled, rather than being the "other woman" in this man's life.
I have this best friend, who's a guy. We don't have the normal best friend realtionship though, we have the obvious flirty kind. And over the past few months I've really started to like him. Like a lot. Since he's my bestfriend, I decided to tell him. I was expecting him to say something like "We're just friends, you know that" or whatever. But, instead, he said something very similar to what I said to him. He likes me. I was freaking out inside until he said "But, my girlfriend..." I came back to reality so fast, I completely forgot about her. Ever since that conversation, we've been a little more flirty than usual. I'm getting mixed signals. One minute he's like "I love my girl, so I'm faithful to her, but you will always be my best friend." and then the next minute he's like "Baby, I want you, I wanna be with you." It's like his girlfriend dosen't even exist. I don't know what to do! Should I just accept the fact that we're always gonna be "just friends" and get over him, or should I keep things the way they are and just wait and see if we ever become more than friends? Help!
----------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------------
I would draw the line on "baby I want you." That's going to get old fast if this relationship doesn't progress to one of romance in a timely fashion. It's not only for your own good, but he needs to make up his mind, one way or the other, because it's not fair to you. You're the single one, he's not, and he should feel obligated to you (and his girlfriend) to be a stand-up guy. As well, you should honor the fact that he does have a girlfriend, and she simply does not deserve to be left in the dark to be played for a fool. Use some self-restraint, and don't cross the line. I think that would be the quickest way to get this settled, rather than being the "other woman" in this man's life.
