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Sexual Three-way Backfires In This Marriage
- By Miss Emily
- Published 12/23/2010
- Relationships - Men
Dear Miss Emily:
I am 38 year-old male. I am married to a 39 year-old woman for 11 years, and I love her more than anything. We have 3 kids together and her daughter's living with us. She wanted, and we had a threesome with her friend that had been living with us for six months, and she is 22. Now this woman is in love with my wife, and I am in love with her. I can't help it. I loved her before we did anything, but I made myself think of her as like my daughter. But now that we have had sex, it is extremely difficult to go back to that way of thinking. My wife suspects, but she wants to keep the 3 of us this way to see how it works out. I do not know what to do. Please help.
---------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
I don't have to tell you what an incredible mess this has created, but you can't un-ring the bell. I think you should bring this all out in the open, and get it resolved. You have kids together, and they don't deserve their parents hedonistic pleasures ruining their lives. This young girl is in love with your wife -- not you, and they have to work it out, as well. You say you love your wife more than anything, yet you are now in love with this young girl. So you'd be wrong about loving your wife more than anything, because this relationship has diminished that love. Your new bed mate has the advantage in this threesome. She can walk away, at any time, and leave your marriage in shambles. And that's the biggest risk you take if this continues. If I were you, I'd put a stop to this by telling your wife you have developed feelings for her friend -- or stop it on the grounds that you no longer feel comfortable with this arrangement. It shouldn't be that hard. This girl is in love with your wife, but even if she were in love with you, it would probably be transitory because there are lots of guys and women in the world who could please her -- closer to her age, and without the baggage of a married man with kids -- and, possibly, a bitter spouse who initiated this threesome -- but won't take responsibility for the outcome. If you want to risk your marriage, have an affair with a woman who doesn't know your wife. At least that's better than all of you squirming on a bed together with you pining for a woman who would rather be in that bed with your wife, and without you in the mix. Marriage counseling might allow you to turn back the clock before it's too late, but it already might be impossible to stop this speeding train. Good luck, because you'll need it if your brain continues to stay on hiatus.
I am 38 year-old male. I am married to a 39 year-old woman for 11 years, and I love her more than anything. We have 3 kids together and her daughter's living with us. She wanted, and we had a threesome with her friend that had been living with us for six months, and she is 22. Now this woman is in love with my wife, and I am in love with her. I can't help it. I loved her before we did anything, but I made myself think of her as like my daughter. But now that we have had sex, it is extremely difficult to go back to that way of thinking. My wife suspects, but she wants to keep the 3 of us this way to see how it works out. I do not know what to do. Please help.
---------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
I don't have to tell you what an incredible mess this has created, but you can't un-ring the bell. I think you should bring this all out in the open, and get it resolved. You have kids together, and they don't deserve their parents hedonistic pleasures ruining their lives. This young girl is in love with your wife -- not you, and they have to work it out, as well. You say you love your wife more than anything, yet you are now in love with this young girl. So you'd be wrong about loving your wife more than anything, because this relationship has diminished that love. Your new bed mate has the advantage in this threesome. She can walk away, at any time, and leave your marriage in shambles. And that's the biggest risk you take if this continues. If I were you, I'd put a stop to this by telling your wife you have developed feelings for her friend -- or stop it on the grounds that you no longer feel comfortable with this arrangement. It shouldn't be that hard. This girl is in love with your wife, but even if she were in love with you, it would probably be transitory because there are lots of guys and women in the world who could please her -- closer to her age, and without the baggage of a married man with kids -- and, possibly, a bitter spouse who initiated this threesome -- but won't take responsibility for the outcome. If you want to risk your marriage, have an affair with a woman who doesn't know your wife. At least that's better than all of you squirming on a bed together with you pining for a woman who would rather be in that bed with your wife, and without you in the mix. Marriage counseling might allow you to turn back the clock before it's too late, but it already might be impossible to stop this speeding train. Good luck, because you'll need it if your brain continues to stay on hiatus.
