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He Wants Open Relationship
- By Miss Emily
- Published 12/21/2010
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
Me and my boyfriend has been together for a year and a half. I know he was very sexually available before I met him, but he said he is faithful and only mine now. however, I see flirtatous comments on his social networks, and saw him sexting someone from his blackberry. Now the idea of an open relationship has been brought forth. What would be the best way to react?
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
An "open relationship" has to be a decision made by both parties, and you don't seem on board with that concept. And that's the bottom line: If you want a boyfriend who is faithful to you, as long as you bother to call yourself committed, then he's not the one for you -- and better to find out now. An "open relationship" is just an excuse to play around and, for most couples, it causes irreparable damage and makes any recovery process impossible. It works in rare cases when there is no jealousy, the maturity level, and security level is without question -- and you have the mind of an artist who thinks sex is the nectar of the gods and must be sought out. All this, while knowing your soul-mate is at home, understands it, for what it is, and welcomes you with open arms. Sound like you two? Go for it. If not, set him straight now.
Me and my boyfriend has been together for a year and a half. I know he was very sexually available before I met him, but he said he is faithful and only mine now. however, I see flirtatous comments on his social networks, and saw him sexting someone from his blackberry. Now the idea of an open relationship has been brought forth. What would be the best way to react?
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
An "open relationship" has to be a decision made by both parties, and you don't seem on board with that concept. And that's the bottom line: If you want a boyfriend who is faithful to you, as long as you bother to call yourself committed, then he's not the one for you -- and better to find out now. An "open relationship" is just an excuse to play around and, for most couples, it causes irreparable damage and makes any recovery process impossible. It works in rare cases when there is no jealousy, the maturity level, and security level is without question -- and you have the mind of an artist who thinks sex is the nectar of the gods and must be sought out. All this, while knowing your soul-mate is at home, understands it, for what it is, and welcomes you with open arms. Sound like you two? Go for it. If not, set him straight now.
