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Too Much Communication!
- By Miss Emily
- Published 12/20/2010
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
Me and my boyfriend are dating for three months now. He is a type who
doesn't want to communicate all day/everyday. I seriously asked him to
text and call me more -- let me know where he is, and we argued .He
is saying that I am trying to change him, and he is not that type who always
communicates. We argued for the second time last week. My intention was
to break up with him, but when I came face-to-face with him, I realized hat I don't really want to break up. He confessed that he
was feeling a bit distant from me and said that he wanted to have his time,
but I didn't let him. We met yesterday. He held my hand and kissed me
for a
couple of times. But he didn't want to have sex. I am so confused and
it is obvious that I don't want to lose him. What am I going to do?
-----------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------------
There are simply some guys who don't want to communicate with their girlfriends, or anyone else, 24/7. He has an independent streak, and it wouldn't be a bad thing thing for you to have one, as well. Some independence is good for a relationship, and it can work well if the foundation is built on trust. It's only been three months since you started dating him. If you don't want to lose him tell him this: "I thought about it, and I really understand where you're coming from. We don't have to be constantly texting or talking to each other on our cells when we're not together." And then watch his eyes light up. I think women fall into a trap of thinking guys don't care because they can't communicate on the same level. Females love to talk, and men, less often. You have to like him for who he is (as long as he's a good, caring man) and not want to change him. Any guy who can be manipulated in that way, you wouldn't respect. And if you could get him to jump through hoops, you'd end up treating him like a pet rather than an equal. Take the pressure off this silly issue, and I'll bet you'll see a happier boyfriend -- one who appreciates you for understanding who he is, rather than wanting him to be something he is not. I'm all for good communication, but technology has turned it into an obsession.
-----------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------------
There are simply some guys who don't want to communicate with their girlfriends, or anyone else, 24/7. He has an independent streak, and it wouldn't be a bad thing thing for you to have one, as well. Some independence is good for a relationship, and it can work well if the foundation is built on trust. It's only been three months since you started dating him. If you don't want to lose him tell him this: "I thought about it, and I really understand where you're coming from. We don't have to be constantly texting or talking to each other on our cells when we're not together." And then watch his eyes light up. I think women fall into a trap of thinking guys don't care because they can't communicate on the same level. Females love to talk, and men, less often. You have to like him for who he is (as long as he's a good, caring man) and not want to change him. Any guy who can be manipulated in that way, you wouldn't respect. And if you could get him to jump through hoops, you'd end up treating him like a pet rather than an equal. Take the pressure off this silly issue, and I'll bet you'll see a happier boyfriend -- one who appreciates you for understanding who he is, rather than wanting him to be something he is not. I'm all for good communication, but technology has turned it into an obsession.
