Dear Miss Emily:

 I'm deeply in love with my boyfriend, and I know he loves me as well. But, because of his past relationships, he still doesn't really trust me or my feelings for him. It really hurts me, but I can understand it since several of them cheated on him, left him, used him, or just told him to f-off. His friends have told me about these girls and they're all pieces of work. He's an amazing person, is very kind, and very loving. The feelings I have for him are feelings I've never felt before. But how can I cope and be with someone who won't trust that I love him even though I do everything I can to prove it to him?

----------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------------------

You're doing everything humanly possible. You're faithful, honest, sincere, loving and supportive. It's he who needs to reset him memory banks and not paint all women with one broad stroke of a brush. He chose these "pieces of work" and there's probably a reason for it. Perhaps it relates to issues, and people in his life growing up. From my experience, people who get used, to this degree, is a result of low self-esteem, and fear of confrontation. He needs to take a look at why he was attracted to women who were not worthy of him. Only then will he feel less 'victimized' if certain behavior patterns are brought to light -- and corrected! Maybe I'm overreaching, but you don't want to endlessly plead your position concerning your love for him because, at some point, you're going to resent him for dumping this problem at your feet.