I have been with my boyfriend for 2 months. He has 1 son from previous marriage and I have 2 from a previous relationship. I just found out I was pregnant. He told me that he didn't want to have anymore kids, but it was my decision on what I wanted to do. He would support me either way. But I'm just not sure, b/c he said that he didn't want to have anymore kids, and that raises many red flags. Every time I think of abortion I start to cry... please I need advice.

-------------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------------------------

He's pretty much told you what's fairly classic in this case when a guy doesn't want his pregnant girlfriend to have the baby -- but knows it's the stand-up thing (and really out of his hands) to say . . . "But I'll support your decision." I don't, for obvious reasons, recommend or discourage abortion. I simply point out what the realities are if you keep the baby. This man will be required, by law, to help financially support this child. That's the least you can expect -- and maybe the most. Now it's up to you to decide if you can handle caring for another child (I doubt you would consider adoption) financially, emotionally, and possibly without having this man in your life in any real capacity.  Don't fool yourself into thinking that a baby will magically want him to be there for you in ways you wish, after only dating him for two months. This revelation of yours must have been a tremendous shock to him. That said, we all know how a woman gets pregnant -- and I am sure you did not do this on purpose to trap him. You seem too smart for that! But taking all factors into consideration, if you do decide to have an abortion this is the time to do it. That way, any anxiety you have about terminating this pregnancy can be minimized. It's easy to get pregnant, but hard to deal with when it's not planned. My heart goes out to you.