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Should I Tell Him I Care?
- By Miss Emily
- Published 12/7/2010
- Relationships - Teens
Emily:
I'm 17 years old and I guess you can say I'm having a typical high school relationship problem, but I could still use the advice. Basically, last year there was this boy who I was good friends with; I mean we would text and talk and IM every single day, and I could tell he liked me and he would flirt with me all the time. But I never liked him like that. I saw him as just a friend and bypassed all of his flirting. Then over the summer, we barely talked at all because I was traveling and just busy -- but when school started back up. we began to talk more. It was about that time that I realized how much I liked him. I mean, he's always been so nice and sweet and I guess it took not talking to him for a while to truly see that and miss it. Unfortunately, now that I like him, he doesn't like me like that anymore. On top of all of that, he now has a new girlfriend who is a senior. But what's worse is that he STILL talks to me, texts me, flirts with me, and it drives me insane because I like him so much and he has a girlfriend so I can't even tell him. So what do I do?
-------------------------------Ask Miss Emily---------------------------
I think you should tell him how you feel. Now, I'm not saying you should pour your heart out to him, but I would approach it like this: "I have to be honest. I'm starting to having feelings for you, and I think it would be hard for me to continue our frequent contacts. It isn't fair to your girlfriend." It lets him know what's going on with you, but you are respecting his new relationship. That seems honorable to me. Don't do it on a text, or e-mail, but in person. See what he says. Otherwise, you'll continue to pine for him and be driven crazy while you suffer in silence. To cut him off completely would leave him wondering what happened -- as if he did something wrong. You don't know what the future holds but, I think, because of the close relationship you have with him, some honesty is warranted.
I'm 17 years old and I guess you can say I'm having a typical high school relationship problem, but I could still use the advice. Basically, last year there was this boy who I was good friends with; I mean we would text and talk and IM every single day, and I could tell he liked me and he would flirt with me all the time. But I never liked him like that. I saw him as just a friend and bypassed all of his flirting. Then over the summer, we barely talked at all because I was traveling and just busy -- but when school started back up. we began to talk more. It was about that time that I realized how much I liked him. I mean, he's always been so nice and sweet and I guess it took not talking to him for a while to truly see that and miss it. Unfortunately, now that I like him, he doesn't like me like that anymore. On top of all of that, he now has a new girlfriend who is a senior. But what's worse is that he STILL talks to me, texts me, flirts with me, and it drives me insane because I like him so much and he has a girlfriend so I can't even tell him. So what do I do?
-------------------------------Ask Miss Emily---------------------------
I think you should tell him how you feel. Now, I'm not saying you should pour your heart out to him, but I would approach it like this: "I have to be honest. I'm starting to having feelings for you, and I think it would be hard for me to continue our frequent contacts. It isn't fair to your girlfriend." It lets him know what's going on with you, but you are respecting his new relationship. That seems honorable to me. Don't do it on a text, or e-mail, but in person. See what he says. Otherwise, you'll continue to pine for him and be driven crazy while you suffer in silence. To cut him off completely would leave him wondering what happened -- as if he did something wrong. You don't know what the future holds but, I think, because of the close relationship you have with him, some honesty is warranted.
