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She's Muslim, He's Hindu
- By Miss Emily
- Published 12/4/2010
- Relationships - Women
Hi Miss Emily,
I am a 22 years old college student. It has been little more than a year that I started dating my man. We have had lots of fights and have been through too many frustrating situations -- however we never really stopped loving each other. when I am with him, I am the happiest person. But last week, we realized there is a big issue that won't let us be together in the future. We have different faiths. I am Muslim and he is Hindu. I can't marry someone from different religion. Also our parents will never approve of this, and we respect our families very much to hurt them like that. So now he came up with an idea that we will break up, but still continue seeing each other until we meet someone else. So basically, we will be "together" but we will give each other space to see other people. Even tho i don't like this idea because i cant imagine him being with someone else. I don't have a better idea so i just agreed with him. It's either we will break up, and not see each other or, see each other while looking for someone else. And i want neither, yet cannot continue being in a relationship because we will have to break up in the future. It will be harder to do later on. i dont know how to handle this situation so just pray to god that he converts to Islam. Otherwise, we can never be together. Please help me out. I don't know what to do anymore. I want him to fall for me so much that he wont even think about being with someone else.
----------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------------------
There's no going back, but I wish you had thought about the faith issue prior to now, and resisted any greater involvement. This causes tremendous emotional pain for you and him. I do not think his Hindu parents would take kindly to his conversion to Islam, would they? If the relationship has no future, despite the horrid prospect of not seeing each other, wouldn't it be better to cut if off, now, than continue a relationship called "friendship" while you and he date, or until someone who fits the proper mold comes along? It seems totally unreasonable to try and maintain this as a friendship only. It's walking such a fine line, it would never work to either of your satisfaction. You'd want to be with each other because the draw is so very magnetic. Again, the mature thing to do (although you don't see it now) would be to resist seeing each other, yet correspond through e-mail to let each other know how you are doing, and share knowledge about life and times.
I am a 22 years old college student. It has been little more than a year that I started dating my man. We have had lots of fights and have been through too many frustrating situations -- however we never really stopped loving each other. when I am with him, I am the happiest person. But last week, we realized there is a big issue that won't let us be together in the future. We have different faiths. I am Muslim and he is Hindu. I can't marry someone from different religion. Also our parents will never approve of this, and we respect our families very much to hurt them like that. So now he came up with an idea that we will break up, but still continue seeing each other until we meet someone else. So basically, we will be "together" but we will give each other space to see other people. Even tho i don't like this idea because i cant imagine him being with someone else. I don't have a better idea so i just agreed with him. It's either we will break up, and not see each other or, see each other while looking for someone else. And i want neither, yet cannot continue being in a relationship because we will have to break up in the future. It will be harder to do later on. i dont know how to handle this situation so just pray to god that he converts to Islam. Otherwise, we can never be together. Please help me out. I don't know what to do anymore. I want him to fall for me so much that he wont even think about being with someone else.
----------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------------------
There's no going back, but I wish you had thought about the faith issue prior to now, and resisted any greater involvement. This causes tremendous emotional pain for you and him. I do not think his Hindu parents would take kindly to his conversion to Islam, would they? If the relationship has no future, despite the horrid prospect of not seeing each other, wouldn't it be better to cut if off, now, than continue a relationship called "friendship" while you and he date, or until someone who fits the proper mold comes along? It seems totally unreasonable to try and maintain this as a friendship only. It's walking such a fine line, it would never work to either of your satisfaction. You'd want to be with each other because the draw is so very magnetic. Again, the mature thing to do (although you don't see it now) would be to resist seeing each other, yet correspond through e-mail to let each other know how you are doing, and share knowledge about life and times.
