Dear Miss Emily:

My ex-husband, of 9 months, has confided in me about  his marital issues with the women he had the affair during our marriage --  and has now been married to for three months. Your thoughts, please.

-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------

I'd tell him you're not the one to be his confidante. He cheated on you with this woman, and it's insulting for you to have to lend an ear to him -- because he may have regrets. Are you still in love with him?  If so, this only adds to your pain if you listen to him hoping he'll come back to you as a result of their "issues." That could be a real long shot.  And if it ever did happen, he would need to come to that conclusion on his own without using you as his counselor. I know it's tempting, but you're going to feel double-crossed if he works things out with her --  and you're left twisting in the wind.