Dear Emily,

 I have been having sex with the same man for 2 years now. He is 16 years older then me. I really care about this man, The only thing is I want him to take me out. I have asked him, and he always puts if off.. I have never met any of his friends or family. Am I wasting my time, or do you think he cares for me and one day might change his mind.

-------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------

Have you ever entertained the idea that he has a girlfriend, or is married? That's a big possibility -- and not uncommon, my dear. If not, there's no reason to keep you behind closed doors. Somethings wrong with this picture, and if you have the guts, dump him. I think you're being royally used by this man, and if you have any respect for yourself, you'll no longer allow this shabby treatment. You're sweet, and trusting, but something is "rotten in Denmark," and I think it's him. And, no, I don't believe he'll change his mind one day. In fact, I'd bet large sums of money on it.