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Hedging His Bets?
- By Miss Emily
- Published 11/30/2010
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
My boyfriend and I have only been together for about a month, but I believe that I love him and he says he love me. But he used my phone one day and didn't log out of his social networking account. I went through his inbox and saw him asking girls for their numbers and asking when he could see them -- during our relationship. I lied to him and said a female had sent me a message and warned me about him. Of course he denied everything. He said while he does have conversations with females, he doesn't ask for their numbers or ask to see them. He says he wants to be with me and that I should trust him. He is with me every night, so I don't know when he would have time to be doing anything but I wouldn't put it past anyone. He has introduced me to his whole family and friends. He also opened up to me more than he has to other girls in the past --.but I cant stop thinking about the messages I saw. What should I do?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
Maybe he's hedging his bets with only one month of the relationship under his belt. Or it's a nifty habit he's gotten into -- contacting girls on his S.N because it builds his ego, and it's just so darn fun to flirt and show everyone what a catch he is. Who really knows the motivation? Love is a word that's often bandied around at the first blush of romance. The hormones are in full gear, and flowery words fly hot and heavy. Bottom Line: He lied to you, but he didn't want to risk you telling him to take a hike. He's not always with you 24/7, I suspect, so there would be some time to converse with other ladies. Just be careful. Trust has to be earned. He's lied to you once, and he could do it again. Keep your eyes and ears open but, right now, it's a wait and see situation.
My boyfriend and I have only been together for about a month, but I believe that I love him and he says he love me. But he used my phone one day and didn't log out of his social networking account. I went through his inbox and saw him asking girls for their numbers and asking when he could see them -- during our relationship. I lied to him and said a female had sent me a message and warned me about him. Of course he denied everything. He said while he does have conversations with females, he doesn't ask for their numbers or ask to see them. He says he wants to be with me and that I should trust him. He is with me every night, so I don't know when he would have time to be doing anything but I wouldn't put it past anyone. He has introduced me to his whole family and friends. He also opened up to me more than he has to other girls in the past --.but I cant stop thinking about the messages I saw. What should I do?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
Maybe he's hedging his bets with only one month of the relationship under his belt. Or it's a nifty habit he's gotten into -- contacting girls on his S.N because it builds his ego, and it's just so darn fun to flirt and show everyone what a catch he is. Who really knows the motivation? Love is a word that's often bandied around at the first blush of romance. The hormones are in full gear, and flowery words fly hot and heavy. Bottom Line: He lied to you, but he didn't want to risk you telling him to take a hike. He's not always with you 24/7, I suspect, so there would be some time to converse with other ladies. Just be careful. Trust has to be earned. He's lied to you once, and he could do it again. Keep your eyes and ears open but, right now, it's a wait and see situation.
