Emily,

I've been with this girl for almost two years. The entire time I've known her she's smoked marijuana.  I don't, and I also don't support it but I've never told her to stop either.  All of a sudden she springs it on me that, a couple months ago, she tried shrooms also.  I don't even know what to say or express how I feel to her.  I guess my point pretty much is that I'm an athlete that spends nearly all of my free time working out, training, trying to eat right and live as clean as possible.  I'm just not sure if I should even bother with this relationship if we're going to live such different lives.  Maybe I'm too sensitive.  Please help.

------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------

 
I think you have a valid point. Why be with her if you and she are not truly compatible in ways you find important? There must be some things that you and she enjoy together (it's been two years), but it is her continual smoking weed and, now, doing other recreational drugs (of which you are opposed)  that makes re accessing this relationship mandatory. She's a free spirit, and you have a structured approach to life. You need to figure out how much longer you want to be in this relationship if you find fault with the way she conducts her life. This relationship may have run its course; especially since you realize that you and she are on a path headed in opposite directions. Let her be who she is, and you be who you want to be -- and maybe that's with a woman who can go head-to-head with you in fitness, health, and a value system you respect.