Dear Miss Emily:

My ex and I just recently started seeing each other, again, and after 4 years together, he finally told me that he loved me. I have been going to counseling and requested that he go with me, and he exploded.  He said that he was furious with me for trying to force that "bs" on him.  Now he won't talk to me or respond to my text messages.  It was really just a suggestion for us to work on our communication problems but he wont talk to me for me to explain that and to work through this. What do I do??

-----------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------

If you do get a chance to talk to him, again, thank him -- because he's now given you all the information you need to end the relationship for good. If he exploded over the fact that you want him to work with you on how to communicate with the help of an unbiased professional, he's as much saying "What you see, is what you get, and you can take it or leave it." And I'd happily leave it, because if you've tried to open up the lines of communication on your own and it failed (knowing it takes two to cooperate), understand that any problems you've had with him in the past, still exist, and no amount of wishing (or him saying "I love you") will magically correct it.