Hey Miss Emily,

I'm a 17 yr old girl. Well tonight was my first date with a guy I had a crush on last year. I thought I still liked him when he asked me to be his girlfriend, but he kissed me and I didn't like it. He didn't force me to kiss him, it was just when I kissed him it didn't feel right and to tell the truth it was gross. I feel like my crush on him is gone, but part of me wanted to be his girlfriend but now it's like I don't want to be with him at all. I just started this relationship and if I feel like that should I put an end to it? Please can you help me figure this out, before it gets too deep and we both end up hurt. I know we're still going to hurt even if it was only a two hour relationship,  but can you please help? I'm very confused right now.

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Before you give up on this relationship, think about this for a moment. I'm wondering if he's just a lousy kisser, and needs help in this area. If that were the case, you could take the lead and show him how it's done. It would entail you saying "Try this." I'm sure he'd be more than happy to jump on board. If you like him in other ways, the kissing issue is not insurmountable. However, if you simply discovered, even though you had a crush on him last year, he isn't who you thought he would be after getting to know him better, end it now. But keep in mind that one date does not really give you too much to go on, and I'm thinking another date would offer more insight. After a second date, and you felt the same way, I would see no problem in telling him, "You know, you're a great guy, but I don't think we're right for each other." It takes some courage, yes, but it's your life and you have every right to lead it your way. I'm sure he'll survive.