My boyfriend and I are on a break, but he doesn't stop calling. HE decided to take a break to think about things. He needs to thinks about what he wants, and get his head sorted out cause he noticed after nine months that this was getting too serious and he's "really confused". And, of course, he's afraid of commitment. So I understood and I'm currently giving him time to think. It hasn't been more than 2 days since he made the decision and he's been calling since the first day more than twice. He has called me for a series of things:
1-That he can't stop thinking about me.
2-That he appreciates me understanding what he's doing (this was today).
3-To see what I'm doing, and how have I been.
4-To see where I am and meet and just see me.
5-He has even told me what he's doing, and what he's going to do.
6-And of course to tell me that he still loves me and he thinks he stills deserve me.
Now, I was told to cut all communication and try to avoid even seeing him; which makes sense cause it makes things harder. But he calls 2,3,4 times in a row and even though I ignore the firsts ones, I get to a point where I just answer and try to be nice and not give him that many details about what's going on with me.
We study at the same university (big one) where there is no chance I'll bump into him. So he calls me to see where I am, and even though I tried to tell him to call later, I ended up telling him(What am I supposed to do if I love him). So he goes and sits next to me while I'm studying and just looks at me. To make it short I just asked how has he been and whatever till he soon left to go eat, not before giving me a big kiss in my cheek and a hug(which I'm pretty sure I smelled alcohol). Anyways to get to my questions: Isn't this supposed to be a break? When guys want a break aren't they looking precisely for alone time and not having to check in with your girlfriend or have to give any explanation about what you are or not doing? I mean...What am I supposed to do when he just calls and calls, and I'm the one who's supposed to be sad and w/e? What is this?

--------------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------------------

After nine months, I think you're finally seeing the guy for who he is: a confused, insecure man who is vacillating between guilt and insecurity, and he's dragging you into the mix. What you need to do is use this break as a time to evaluate your relationship with him and figure out if you want to continue in it -- if that's an option. He seems to hold all the cards, he's playing a hand that's weak, at best, and you're caught up in the game. Be firm with him. Again, remind him that the break he requested was his idea. You now truly understand the extent of his confusion, and his erratic behavior has convinced you of that. Place a time limit on when you'll speak to him, again -- and give it about two weeks for him to go through this mental jujitsu without your input. You may not end up with him for the long-haul, but he set the stage for this and, now, he has to man-up to that decision and work this out on his own.