I have been with my boyfriend for a year, next week, and we were together all the time Nov-Aug, and everything was okay. He was a bit possessive over me though. This Fall he transferred to another school and he picked up partying and he cheated on me one night, because he was drunk -- he said. I've talked to him and he says the long distance isn't bothering him, but I think that's the key issue. I'm unsure how to confront him to prove he is a bit more needy than he thinks. I found out through someone else, and it took him like a week of me talking to him to admit it. He lies, so it's difficult.

---------------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------------------

I believe the distance can be a factor, of course, but cheating and lying is a huge problem in any relationship. That's so obviously, but it's good to read in print! I know it happens, no one is perfect, but he didn't seem to think it would be an issue if no one was looking -- except someone did, and blabbed. And that can happen no matter where he resides. I think it's best to tell him he's free to do what he wants in order to find out what he wants. I know there's a risk of losing him, permanently, but the draw to party and you not being around makes the temptation great it would seem -- booze enhanced, or not. Why keep him on a tether? See him if you choose,  but do it without commitment until there's a sea change.