Dear Miss Emily:

I split up with my boyfriend because he cheated on me. I was shocked when I found out from his sister what he had done. I couldn't understand why he did it and when i asked him he said he didn't know. I'm still in love with him after what hes done. I want him back so badly. I even met up with him a couple of days ago, and we acted like we were still together. I'm so confused. I want to trust him, and in a weird way i do...but I'm also scared that if I end up getting back together with him, he might go and cheat again...even though he said he wouldn't. What do i do??? I need a lot of advice!!!!!!

------------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------

Despite my harsh tone, sometimes, concerning cheating, it depends on the degree and circumstance. If this was a supreme error in judgment on his part (despite the fact you had to find out about it from his sister!), and he's a good guy, give him another chance. But let him know that if he plays your for a fool, a second time, he'd better take a good look at himself in the mirror and see what's looking back at him -- and you won't be there to help him. That said, if you think you're going to walk around with heaps of insecurity, and a need to drag him over the coals, repeatedly, for his past "indiscretion" I wouldn't revisit this relationship. Both of you don't need it, and life is too short.