Dear Miss Emily

I found emails from a year ago on my b/f's computer between him and a married woman talking about how she is bisexual. I asked him about this but he said it was nothing and they use to date a few years ago.  Well, the other day the same woman sent him pictures of her to his phone saying they need to stay in touch. Do I have a right to be upset?  It really hurt my feelings that he wasn't honest.  Plus, he deleted her off his facebook...what does that mean?  I tell him all these things but he gets upset and says I'm worrying for no reason.

---------------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------

I would think that if he deleted her off his facebook, he doesn't want to honestly pursue any relationship with her. And just because she text him saying they needed to stay in touch, doesn't mean he feels that way. I'd calm down and not court trouble where none exist. He didn't break any rules by having some correspondence with her -- and, after reading them, you didn't find anything salacious. Don't give him cause to look elsewhere because you're insecure and, well, produce this (taken from the Internet):

The self-fulfilling prophecy is a statement that alters actions and therefore comes true. For example, a person stating “I’m probably going to have a lousy day,” might alter his actions so that such a prediction is fulfilled by his actions. This may be an unconscious gesture. A person who might espouse a self-fulfilling prophecy in a positive way “I’m going to have a great day,” might act in ways that will actually make this prediction true.

The self-fulfilling prophecy actually predates its name. Early examples of the self-fulfilling prophecy are the Greek myths surrounding Oedipus. Oedipus fulfills the oracle’s prophecy that he will kill his father and marry his mother, by striving to avoid the prophecy. This can be called a self-fulfilling prophecy because it is Oedipus’ actions that make the prophecy true.