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Little Hope For This Relationship
- By Miss Emily
- Published 10/26/2010
- Relationships - Women
Emily:
Hello. I met a guy through a friend around 9 years ago. I just knew him to say hi to and nothing else, yet he managed to get my number and started texting me. I made it clear I was not interested and thought that was that. Then around a year later, he text me again and we met up a few times over the next year or so. I really let him down a lot and would often cancel meeting up with him at the last minute until he got fed up with it. We stopped talking for ages and, then, around 3 years ago I split with a guy I was seeing and all of a sudden he appeared again and we went out. I then made him leave halfway through the evening because I realized I was still in love with my ex. He left and we didn't speak again for ages. I got back with my ex and forgot about him. Then 2 years ago, I was out and bumped into him and we started texting and getting back in contact again. He hinted, loads of times, about me messing him about and that I had, had my chances. I started to really feel something for him and just wanted to see him all the time. I found out he was in a relationship and it hurt loads. We have met up numerous times over the past year, but each time we meet he goes quiet and wont talk to me for weeks. Last time, it was months and he ignored my texts and calls. Then a few weeks, ago, he started talking to me again and we met a few days ago...after meeting I text him and said we must meet again and he replied with 'No Thanks'. I was so hurt...I sent him a horrible text back which he went mad at and has now told me to stop texting him and delete his number....I dont want to do that but I guess I dont have a choice...im so confused
---------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
When he said you'd had your chance but, basically, missed it, that was an ego-deflation, I am sure. And no one wants to be told 'No" in this manner -- nor "No" when we think we want something. "No" also can instill a false need, or urgency to go after something that appears futile. Humans like to win, no matter what they do with the spoils. I would delete his number as he requested. He'll let you know if he changes his mind.
Hello. I met a guy through a friend around 9 years ago. I just knew him to say hi to and nothing else, yet he managed to get my number and started texting me. I made it clear I was not interested and thought that was that. Then around a year later, he text me again and we met up a few times over the next year or so. I really let him down a lot and would often cancel meeting up with him at the last minute until he got fed up with it. We stopped talking for ages and, then, around 3 years ago I split with a guy I was seeing and all of a sudden he appeared again and we went out. I then made him leave halfway through the evening because I realized I was still in love with my ex. He left and we didn't speak again for ages. I got back with my ex and forgot about him. Then 2 years ago, I was out and bumped into him and we started texting and getting back in contact again. He hinted, loads of times, about me messing him about and that I had, had my chances. I started to really feel something for him and just wanted to see him all the time. I found out he was in a relationship and it hurt loads. We have met up numerous times over the past year, but each time we meet he goes quiet and wont talk to me for weeks. Last time, it was months and he ignored my texts and calls. Then a few weeks, ago, he started talking to me again and we met a few days ago...after meeting I text him and said we must meet again and he replied with 'No Thanks'. I was so hurt...I sent him a horrible text back which he went mad at and has now told me to stop texting him and delete his number....I dont want to do that but I guess I dont have a choice...im so confused
---------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
When he said you'd had your chance but, basically, missed it, that was an ego-deflation, I am sure. And no one wants to be told 'No" in this manner -- nor "No" when we think we want something. "No" also can instill a false need, or urgency to go after something that appears futile. Humans like to win, no matter what they do with the spoils. I would delete his number as he requested. He'll let you know if he changes his mind.
