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Tel him How I feel?
- By Miss Emily
- Published 10/13/2010
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
I work away on a mine site. I work away from home for 2 weeks at a time. I met this wonderful guy, about 3 months into my job. He had noticed me as soon as I started and telling my friends he really liked me. I ended up giving him my number and we talked and messaged a lot. About a week after talking to him over the phone, I met up with him -- it's hard on a mine site, as a lot of gossip goes around -- so we restricted it just to our rooms for catch up, which was my idea. And i wanted it to remain a secret or on the downlow. He kept his word and has never given me any reason not to trust him. We talked everyday on the phone, while I am at work, but I don't contact him when I am on break and same with him (we are on different breaks at the moment). He has asked when we have our next break off together, but I told him that break I was going overseas already, before I even listened to what he was going to suggest. He is a really sweet guy, and I think he really cares for me too. I'm falling heads over heels for him, which is the last thing I was looking for coming out to a mine-site, and I don't know whether I should tell him how I feel. I'm scared he wont feel the same way and I will be devastated...did I mentioned I am 27 and he is 24. I am Australian and he is Irish working in Australia for a little while...but not forever. I still don't know exactly how this all happened because I was never looking for love out here, so I am tempted just to run away from it all. I always have options to transfer to another mine-site, but the only reason I would stay is because of him...should I tell him how I feel?
-------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------------
I think it would be easier to be devastated now (if you found he wasn't on board with how you feel), rather than have this happen down the road -- when devastated might be a euphemism for how you feel. Your job situation is unusual, and it doesn't help that he's an Irishman who will, no doubt, return home. These are all the things you need to consider before you get too involved with him, if that's an option. From what you have said, he does seem to like you a great deal -- but I'd get a conversation going about your feelings for each other, the risks of getting involved, and how you would handle it if you did. Good communication is the name of the game!
I work away on a mine site. I work away from home for 2 weeks at a time. I met this wonderful guy, about 3 months into my job. He had noticed me as soon as I started and telling my friends he really liked me. I ended up giving him my number and we talked and messaged a lot. About a week after talking to him over the phone, I met up with him -- it's hard on a mine site, as a lot of gossip goes around -- so we restricted it just to our rooms for catch up, which was my idea. And i wanted it to remain a secret or on the downlow. He kept his word and has never given me any reason not to trust him. We talked everyday on the phone, while I am at work, but I don't contact him when I am on break and same with him (we are on different breaks at the moment). He has asked when we have our next break off together, but I told him that break I was going overseas already, before I even listened to what he was going to suggest. He is a really sweet guy, and I think he really cares for me too. I'm falling heads over heels for him, which is the last thing I was looking for coming out to a mine-site, and I don't know whether I should tell him how I feel. I'm scared he wont feel the same way and I will be devastated...did I mentioned I am 27 and he is 24. I am Australian and he is Irish working in Australia for a little while...but not forever. I still don't know exactly how this all happened because I was never looking for love out here, so I am tempted just to run away from it all. I always have options to transfer to another mine-site, but the only reason I would stay is because of him...should I tell him how I feel?
-------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------------
I think it would be easier to be devastated now (if you found he wasn't on board with how you feel), rather than have this happen down the road -- when devastated might be a euphemism for how you feel. Your job situation is unusual, and it doesn't help that he's an Irishman who will, no doubt, return home. These are all the things you need to consider before you get too involved with him, if that's an option. From what you have said, he does seem to like you a great deal -- but I'd get a conversation going about your feelings for each other, the risks of getting involved, and how you would handle it if you did. Good communication is the name of the game!
