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Possible Teen Pregnancy
- By Miss Emily
- Published 10/10/2010
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily,
My best friend came to me with some terrifying news the other day. She told me that she and her boyfriend had unprotected sex. They stopped very quickly, finally realizing that what they were doing was not okay. She thinks she has missed her period and is stressing out over whether she is pregnant or not. She asked for my advice and I really didn't know what to say. I thought maybe telling her mom would be a good decision, but she refused knowing her mom would be really upset. I don't know how to help her or what to say. Can you give me advice on how to give her advice? My friend is only 16 years old and I'm 18.
---------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
Her thinking she missed a period is either fact, or not fact. There can be reasons why there would be some delay. Stress can do all sorts of things to our bodies. It is less likely that she could become pregnant if he did not ejaculate (but possible, indeed), and that may, or may not be the case. My advice to her is this: Do not wait any longer to find out if you are pregnant. Get a pregnancy test from the drugstore. They are relatively cheap, and it will put her mind at ease. No one need know what she has done, unless she is pregnant. But that's the cart before the horse. Of course, if she is, she needs to tell her mother, right away, because it won't go away by wishing it so, and plans have to be made. She either commits to having the baby, or considers an early abortion. I am making no judgment call, here, only stressing her options. As well, if she hasn't already gotten the message, tell her to use protection, next time -- or, again, risk the consequences of pregnancy or an STD. In my opinion, the stakes are way too high to be careless.
My best friend came to me with some terrifying news the other day. She told me that she and her boyfriend had unprotected sex. They stopped very quickly, finally realizing that what they were doing was not okay. She thinks she has missed her period and is stressing out over whether she is pregnant or not. She asked for my advice and I really didn't know what to say. I thought maybe telling her mom would be a good decision, but she refused knowing her mom would be really upset. I don't know how to help her or what to say. Can you give me advice on how to give her advice? My friend is only 16 years old and I'm 18.
---------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
Her thinking she missed a period is either fact, or not fact. There can be reasons why there would be some delay. Stress can do all sorts of things to our bodies. It is less likely that she could become pregnant if he did not ejaculate (but possible, indeed), and that may, or may not be the case. My advice to her is this: Do not wait any longer to find out if you are pregnant. Get a pregnancy test from the drugstore. They are relatively cheap, and it will put her mind at ease. No one need know what she has done, unless she is pregnant. But that's the cart before the horse. Of course, if she is, she needs to tell her mother, right away, because it won't go away by wishing it so, and plans have to be made. She either commits to having the baby, or considers an early abortion. I am making no judgment call, here, only stressing her options. As well, if she hasn't already gotten the message, tell her to use protection, next time -- or, again, risk the consequences of pregnancy or an STD. In my opinion, the stakes are way too high to be careless.
