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She Wants Only Friendship
- By Miss Emily
- Published 10/5/2010
- Relationships - Men
Dear Miss Emily:
I started hanging out with this girl along with another male friend of mine. We have become sort of like a trio. Me and her have so much in common. Within 2 weeks of knowing her, I told her how I felt and she said that she wants to be just friends. It's been a few months and I have heard that she likes to be friends first before she dates. Now I see her all the time and, because the 3 of us are such close friends, she sleeps over all the time. Now I found out that her culinary school is moving down the block from me, and I am going to be seeing and hanging out with her every day. It's becoming difficult for me to hang out with her and not be more. She is so cool and means so much to me. I know she is looking for a boy friends, but i don't know if I should tell her, again, how I feel. I just don't want to make things weird, on one hand, but on the other being around her and not with her is making me depressed. What should I do?
------------------------------Ask Miss Emily---------------------
I'm convinced she still only wants to be friends, although I know it's hard to accept that as fact when your feelings are so intense toward her. This is a tough decision for you to make. You pretty much said having a great deal of exposure to her will only depress you (despite your fear of total alienation), because you don't have a romantic relationship with her. If you truly feel that emotional pull outweighs your desire to see her at any cost, you'll have to keep her at arms length, and tell her why. In this way, you let her know you are still interested in more than friendship and, she, again, can tell you how she feels. Perhaps a little distance from you will make her heart grow fonder, but only time will tell on that score.
I started hanging out with this girl along with another male friend of mine. We have become sort of like a trio. Me and her have so much in common. Within 2 weeks of knowing her, I told her how I felt and she said that she wants to be just friends. It's been a few months and I have heard that she likes to be friends first before she dates. Now I see her all the time and, because the 3 of us are such close friends, she sleeps over all the time. Now I found out that her culinary school is moving down the block from me, and I am going to be seeing and hanging out with her every day. It's becoming difficult for me to hang out with her and not be more. She is so cool and means so much to me. I know she is looking for a boy friends, but i don't know if I should tell her, again, how I feel. I just don't want to make things weird, on one hand, but on the other being around her and not with her is making me depressed. What should I do?
------------------------------Ask Miss Emily---------------------
I'm convinced she still only wants to be friends, although I know it's hard to accept that as fact when your feelings are so intense toward her. This is a tough decision for you to make. You pretty much said having a great deal of exposure to her will only depress you (despite your fear of total alienation), because you don't have a romantic relationship with her. If you truly feel that emotional pull outweighs your desire to see her at any cost, you'll have to keep her at arms length, and tell her why. In this way, you let her know you are still interested in more than friendship and, she, again, can tell you how she feels. Perhaps a little distance from you will make her heart grow fonder, but only time will tell on that score.
