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Ex Keeps Calling Married Man
- By Miss Emily
- Published 09/28/2010
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily,
I don't think what I have is a problem, but more of a concern. I've been married for a year and a half now. My husband was previously engaged to a person he had know for 7 years. After his engagement broke off, they each went on with their own lives. He met me a year later (in 2008), and we got engaged then married (2009). As this is a small community, word got around and she had heard. During our engagement, she kept texting and calling him. Then it stopped.
When we got married, she texted him twice and called once. He ignored both cases and, at one time, told her that he's very busy and he can't talk. There was a period of silence for 7 months and, then, out of the blue she texted him this week - something about life is full of coincidences and it's so funny. I appreciate the fact that my husband shares things with me. I was very cool on the phone with him and just said ignore it. Now, all the above mentioned about her texting and calling, he has been ignoring. He never answers, replies, or even bothers with it. We basically laugh it off. However, I am a bit bothered by it. I mean, what gives? It's been almost 2 years and, then, out of the blue, every 6 months, she sends a stupid text?
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------
I find it rather sad, and pathetic that she has a need to keep in touch. I commend your husband for having the good sense to not play into her hands. I get many e-mails from women who have boyfriends, or husbands who do respond to these type of overtures and say "I don't want to hurt her feelings." I think it only encourages that person if there is a response. In time, she should stop, because her efforts are fruitless. Let your husband know you think he's absolutely marvelous for handling this in the proper manner. He's a stand-up guy.
I don't think what I have is a problem, but more of a concern. I've been married for a year and a half now. My husband was previously engaged to a person he had know for 7 years. After his engagement broke off, they each went on with their own lives. He met me a year later (in 2008), and we got engaged then married (2009). As this is a small community, word got around and she had heard. During our engagement, she kept texting and calling him. Then it stopped.
When we got married, she texted him twice and called once. He ignored both cases and, at one time, told her that he's very busy and he can't talk. There was a period of silence for 7 months and, then, out of the blue she texted him this week - something about life is full of coincidences and it's so funny. I appreciate the fact that my husband shares things with me. I was very cool on the phone with him and just said ignore it. Now, all the above mentioned about her texting and calling, he has been ignoring. He never answers, replies, or even bothers with it. We basically laugh it off. However, I am a bit bothered by it. I mean, what gives? It's been almost 2 years and, then, out of the blue, every 6 months, she sends a stupid text?
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------
I find it rather sad, and pathetic that she has a need to keep in touch. I commend your husband for having the good sense to not play into her hands. I get many e-mails from women who have boyfriends, or husbands who do respond to these type of overtures and say "I don't want to hurt her feelings." I think it only encourages that person if there is a response. In time, she should stop, because her efforts are fruitless. Let your husband know you think he's absolutely marvelous for handling this in the proper manner. He's a stand-up guy.
