This last Sunday my brother was given divorce papers from his wife. They've been together for about 7 years and been married for 2. I'm very close to my sister in law (or as so i thought) and I'm pretty close with my brother, as well. They have 2 sons 3 and 6 who I keep a close relationship with and babysit. Today she texted me that she was kicking my brother out, and she would appreciate if  I had no contact with her and that her kids were fine. I didn't respond because I don't know how to. But I don't understand why I can't talk to her, and by her telling me her kids were fine...does that mean I won't be able to talk to them either?  Mostly I really don't understand what I have to do with her and my brother's situation. I would really want to still have a relationship with her. When she and I hung out, we never talked about her marriage, it was all girl talk. I'm so confused and feel shocked. How can I approach her?  Thank you.

---------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------------------


Sadly, her contempt for your brother has spilled over to you. It's wrong -- if not for her, the children. Your brother has every right to see his kids, and that is the time you should see them, as well. She can't keep you from having a relationship with them, despite her attempt to cut you off. The true story here is yet to be revealed, other than the fact she wants a divorce from your brother and has chosen to distance herself from you. I'd send her an e-mail saying you will honor her wishes, despite the fact you truly do not understand the position she has taken. See your brother's children when he has them, and maintain your desire to be the best aunt you can be. I don't agree with your sister-in-law's stance, but it's her right to cut you off, but impossible to keep you from your brother's kids -- if that's her plan.