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Boyfriend Has Hots For Best Friend
- By Miss Emily
- Published 09/20/2010
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, and we both know that our relationship is not based on lust. In fact, we had problems from the start because our lovemaking styles are completely different. I know he loves me and we're still willing to be together despite out differences. He told me he wasn't sexually attracted to me, and we decided to work on it. But I also know he is sexually attracted to my best friend. He won't admit it but won't deny it either. He just calls her bad names and tells me never to be like her. Recenly he got very angry and upset when a close friend of his slept with her, and he was hurt because his friend brought her to his house to do it. I don't know what to do. It bothers me A LOT. I'm not sure if I should stay with him... ?
-------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------
I'm not sure you should stay with him either. I would hardly call him indifferent to your best friend. Perhaps he's not even aware of his behavior concerning her, and these issues -- but that doesn't make the situation any better. He may love you, but I don't think he's in love with you, and the fact he says he not "sexually" attracted to you isn't at all reassuring, either. I don't know how you can bring him to your side 100%, if he's so hot and bothered by your friend's looks, and behavior -- behavior that's really none of his business. He may be confused but, again, it's because he's not totally on board with the relationship he has with you. Stay if you decide that's satisfactory but, if it were me, I think I'd want to seek greener pasture.
I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, and we both know that our relationship is not based on lust. In fact, we had problems from the start because our lovemaking styles are completely different. I know he loves me and we're still willing to be together despite out differences. He told me he wasn't sexually attracted to me, and we decided to work on it. But I also know he is sexually attracted to my best friend. He won't admit it but won't deny it either. He just calls her bad names and tells me never to be like her. Recenly he got very angry and upset when a close friend of his slept with her, and he was hurt because his friend brought her to his house to do it. I don't know what to do. It bothers me A LOT. I'm not sure if I should stay with him... ?
-------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------
I'm not sure you should stay with him either. I would hardly call him indifferent to your best friend. Perhaps he's not even aware of his behavior concerning her, and these issues -- but that doesn't make the situation any better. He may love you, but I don't think he's in love with you, and the fact he says he not "sexually" attracted to you isn't at all reassuring, either. I don't know how you can bring him to your side 100%, if he's so hot and bothered by your friend's looks, and behavior -- behavior that's really none of his business. He may be confused but, again, it's because he's not totally on board with the relationship he has with you. Stay if you decide that's satisfactory but, if it were me, I think I'd want to seek greener pasture.
