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He's Got Girlfriend With Kids
- By Miss Emily
- Published 09/17/2010
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
I am in a not so good situation. I know this, but have developed feelings for this person and I find it hard to seperate myself. He was honest with me about having a girlfriend and kids (I know I am the worst of people). We have been talking for the last year, and the time we spend together is overwhellming. As he works in the city I live 6 months out of the year, we can spend the time until he leaves. He told me that he loves me, but when I did not say anything back he said that I have a special place in his heart. I know I should stop being involved with him, but how do I go about doing this without giving in?
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------
There's that old saying "The heart wants what the heart wants," and that's why we, sometimes, walk into the biggest world of hurt. I am sure he offers a great deal of excitement for you. There's something appealing about an affair -- and that's pretty much what you have going on with him. Stolen moments, something forbidden, and the sheer intimacy that comes with those moments. Gee, it sounds like I know what I'm talking about. I read a lot! And although I am sure you have thoughts about him freeing himself to be with you, the reality of it is not quite as exciting as the dream. He has a ready made family, and children who may not see you as the great lady I am sure you are, and this man thinks you to be. He may love you, but he appears committed to the woman who is the mother of his children. Having two ladies to love, and who love him, is a man's dream come true, but it's fraught with emotional baggage when all is said and done. If you understand this, and know that it will always be you who ends up alone, continue with him and develop even greater feelings. But if you want more, I'd look for a man who can give it to you, because I don't think he's the one. How you cut him off, permanently, will only come when you realize the pain exceeds the joy. You're not the worst of people, you are simply a woman who wants to be loved.
I am in a not so good situation. I know this, but have developed feelings for this person and I find it hard to seperate myself. He was honest with me about having a girlfriend and kids (I know I am the worst of people). We have been talking for the last year, and the time we spend together is overwhellming. As he works in the city I live 6 months out of the year, we can spend the time until he leaves. He told me that he loves me, but when I did not say anything back he said that I have a special place in his heart. I know I should stop being involved with him, but how do I go about doing this without giving in?
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------
There's that old saying "The heart wants what the heart wants," and that's why we, sometimes, walk into the biggest world of hurt. I am sure he offers a great deal of excitement for you. There's something appealing about an affair -- and that's pretty much what you have going on with him. Stolen moments, something forbidden, and the sheer intimacy that comes with those moments. Gee, it sounds like I know what I'm talking about. I read a lot! And although I am sure you have thoughts about him freeing himself to be with you, the reality of it is not quite as exciting as the dream. He has a ready made family, and children who may not see you as the great lady I am sure you are, and this man thinks you to be. He may love you, but he appears committed to the woman who is the mother of his children. Having two ladies to love, and who love him, is a man's dream come true, but it's fraught with emotional baggage when all is said and done. If you understand this, and know that it will always be you who ends up alone, continue with him and develop even greater feelings. But if you want more, I'd look for a man who can give it to you, because I don't think he's the one. How you cut him off, permanently, will only come when you realize the pain exceeds the joy. You're not the worst of people, you are simply a woman who wants to be loved.
